Is anyone else afraid of leaving their WH?WW alone? I found myself so reluctant to leave the house to go to the food store today because I thought he would have the opportunity to call ow. I know this is ridiculous, and that I can't watch every move he makes 24/7 but I had to force myself out the door. And when I ran into a friend I love to see and talk to I was distracted by the amount of time I was gone. I know I'm always asking questions but you guys just seem to make me feel better.
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I might not know a lot... but I still feel the same way about leaving my H alone. But I came to realize if I can't leave the house and trust him, how can we make our marriage work?! I know it is very hard to trust when you have been betrayed, but try. Also try to talk with your spouse and state what you are feeling. Communication is very important if you are going to have a chance. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

I also was having the same problem for the past 2 weeks. Constantly hounding my wife to see what she was up to b/c I couldn't trust her. Finally, today, she got fed up with it and threatened to divorce me. I love her so much I didn't want that to happen. So I stopped. I think she is responding to me more now and trying to help our marriage slowly by reading his needs/her needs. I think her persuit of internet infidelity of emotional affairs will pass if I can continue on. But for now, she is still looking for love online. I just don't know if it is still fantasy or she is really persuing someone.

It's a normal reaction! Fear is one of our hardest hurdles we must overcome. And it doesn't happen quickly. We know in our heads we can't control anyone but ourselves...but after a betrayal...we sure would like to be able to do so. Our fear of future pain, of not knowing what is happening...it's hard to let go.

I think you did exactly right...you forced yourself. You may not trust...yet...but until you open up that clinched fist around your heart and risk again...you're not trusting.

I ACTED liked I trusted...I didn't trust...but I tried to seem as if I trusted. Eventually...I did trust. Took a while before that sinking feeling in the pit of my stomach went away...and it's been know to show up at the most unusual times still...but for the most part...the fear is gone and the trust returned.

Trust is risk. And when that trust has been abused once, it's not easy to lay it on the line again. So...what's happening is normal.

IF your spouse is doing his/her part...then this is only temparory.

Thank you everyone. I'm glad I'm not alone in feeling this way and what you say makes sense. I'm going to have to let go and trust him again. I really do want to. I'll just have to grit my teeth and bear it until it comes on its own.
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