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Tell me this isn't happening.........it's been a year and a half since last contact or so I thought. I found out Friday that he's been seeing her again for about a year, they've slept together 2xs.
I'm so numb, I can't feel anything.........
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Margue...so sorry! What do YOU want NOW? Do whatever you must to protect yourself!
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margue -- I know you're hurting. Can you get away from H for a bit while you get your head together. I know that the second d-day after I thought the A had ended was somehow more terrible/more devastating to me. I went almost immediately to a plan B and that has meant my sanity. I don't know what is right for you, but even before I went to the plan B, I asked WH to stay away from me/not contact me while I thought about what I wanted to do. I asked my two best friends to get me out of the house for a few days/keep me busy.
My thoughts are with you. Is there somebody you can turn to for support right now? Do you have children? I don't know your whole story, but do what you need to do to get yourself some time to think.
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I am so sorry that you are going thru this again. I agree you might want to get away if you can and think about what you want at this point and find someone that will and can support you. It concerns me that your second post only said "Die". Are you ok? I've had 4 PA's and I am with my H and our M is pretty strong. We have our days. But I always thought the grass was greener on the other side and the excitment of it all was a big draw for me. But I grew up and did a lot of soul serching. You both need time away right now. Hope you are ok....
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It's just all so hard to believe. I trusted him again, we renewed out vows on June 10 of last year.
He had already started seeing her again. I just don't know what to do. I'm just taking it one minute at a time.
Breathing right now is all I'm concentrating on. I didn't ask him to leave. I won't give that thing the satisfaction.
I'll just keep coming in here and trying to sort it all out.
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Glad your focusing on your breathing! Keep it up...do NOT allow it to stop!
What is your H saying? Is he willing to really end the affair this time around? Is he willing to do whatever is needed to end this drama?
As I said in my first post...do whatever is necessary to protect yourself!!!! If that means filing for a separation do so.
Keep posting...we're here...we care!
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He says he ended it Jan 10. But who knows. I can't believe a word he says. He may even lose his job over it. I'm just concentrating on one minute at a time. breath in breath out breath in breath out <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
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breathing with you, margue.
you have my prayers and my thoughts.
I am a bit of the same situation, so I have no advice. Stay strong, protect yourself, and until you KNOW what to do, don't do anything.
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M,
I can't imagine the pain you're in. I hope you are taking special care of yourself. You are in my prayers. You have alot of support here and we care.
You've been through this before you know the drill. Rollercoaster, irrational feelings, etc. Journaling helped me as well as daily fresh air walks. Eat healthy and get as much rest as you can. You under tremendous pressure and in shock too.
Blessings, CSue
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You are in my prayers. May the Grace of God, that passes all understanding, sustain you; comfort you and support you.
May the Holy Spirit intercede on your behalf with the Father.
God Bless,
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