No, we have not had any counseling. Im ok 90% of the time, but i have a huge uncontrolable temper. I can even joke about her OM somtimes, the OM is unbelievable goofy looking and built like a string bean and extreemly lame physicaly.
I can go 2-3 days without having a blowup. Im starting to accept everything better. I used to think about going out and cheating on her but not anymore much. Im not physical mean to her, but was slightly, i can hurt her very easily so i refrain from being physical. I get mad at myself when im mean to her and its not fun.
I bash WS's because I hate them more then anything. Ive been raised way to different to understand or accept spouses cheating. Ive been raised that bad deeds get repaid by punishment. I am not very forgiving. It's a very new concept to adjust to but im learning/trying <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />
When i found out about her affair she never saw the OM again, OM never knew she was married. She came home and wants to stay married and she cant believe she could do such a thing. We have fun all the time, but somtimes i look at her and i see a stranger almost like an alien monster and i want to smash it, choke it, rip it to pieces, its very weird and i sound like a freek but im not. Im the guy next door or the guy sitting with his wife eating next to you laughing with his wife in a nightclub or wherever, im the guy who takes his daughter to the zoo, movies, jumps around singing and dancing like a fool at home, friends and family always look to me for help and advice etc.
I do have it easier then many here and i know that. My wife knows what she has done wrong and crys every day and wishes she never went to go see the OM. We are very close and go everywhere toghether and always have, its like a living nightmare, i cant seem to wake up or sleep.
