K,
When I was at a low point and opened up about my situation you posted a very insightful reply. I need some help. We have talked to Steve Harley as suggested and it was left that my husband would take the lead. However, he is very good at putting things off, hoping that he will never have to do them. Should I contact SH and let him know that I need help or just let it go and see what happens. After disclosure of a 21 year affair it seems impossible to just bury things and go on. Any advice?