Hey JAW I was just trying to see what is going on. I haven't posted in a while I tried on general questions didn't get many replies. I am still seeing shrink. Wound up getting on wellbutrin have been taking that since thursday. It has helped a lot my mood is a lot better and I am already down to 1 1/2 packs a day on smoking. I was up to 3 packs. Not much new in the m, Wife still not talking to me. Shrink said I should start cutting back on money and get the rest of my stuff. I am in the process of getting what I have left over there. I do not feel right about cutting back on money. I know I should so I don't set a precadent but it just doesn't feel right.

DD is doing wonderful I saw her yesterday and as soon as I got there her arms were straight up wanting me to pick her up. When I did pick her up she put her head on my shoulder and kept it there for a minute, I almost cried. She is walking like she has been doing it for years and is getting into everything. While I was there she would just take off running and it looked like she was drunk because she would start to run and you could tell she was aiming for something and just couldn't quite get to her destination without falling down. Every week I go over there she has learned somehting new. I am learning how to focus on her a lot better. Everytime I start to think of bad things I just try to picture her running.

JAW I started this topic in your name b/c I couldn't think of another topic and you were the only one that usually replied. I just wanted to check in I still read here a lot but just haven't been posting.

1bh

Glad you are back, have been wondering how you are doing! You're sweet baby girl sounds like a little girl all over and already knows how to wrap her daddy around her little finger! LOL

Glad you're on the meds..they do work wonders at helping us get our emotional overload under control...and the stop smoking can indeed be a plus.

I agree with your counselor...you do need to cut back on the $$. It does set a precident for any court of law. Not saying to cut off needed funds for W and kids, but you do need to make sure you've got enough left over if you have to began a new life as a single dad later on down the road.

On general it does usually take some time for those who post there to began repling to a new poster, it can be frustrating. But once you began getting advice, you do get a wider range of experience. Just have to keep at it. LOL

Good Luck!

JAW just a quick question I need some advice I have been seeing a shrink for three weeks now the first 2 sessions were ok he asked a lot of questions And i put out all that I could to him.
The problem is yesterday I go I didn't have a whole lot to say and he didn't ask a whole lot of questions. He told me nothing is wrong with me. Something must be wrong with me I screwed up6 lives and can't get to the root of my unhappyness. The only advice he gave me was get a lawyer, which I probably am fixing to do. I am going to give him one last chance and if it doesn't go well I am hitting the phone books. Can you give me some advice as to what to ask the counselor and what to look for? I dont want to spend $400 for somebody to tell me I am alright. I know I am not a nutcase aat least not totally but i do have problems and want to geet to the bottom of them

1bh

Ouchie...a counselor with nothing to say??? Even if he thinks you're alright, there are still things you need to work out about your marriage situation...plus everyone can use a little guidance on self-discovery.

Maybe you can find someone who knows and understands MB principals. If you must start looking around, ask for a referral from someone you trust, family doctor, friend...whatever. You can try a medical referral service. Do a search on the web.

What to ask? hmmm...First you'd have to tell them what your goals are...I believe, self-examination and reclaiming your marriage if possible and the best way to understand why you chose some of the paths you've taken in life...then ask what their therapy histroy is for helping someone reach these goals. You'll have to be forceful about wanting a pro-marriage counselor, one who is willing to help you in this regard. At the moment, you're not looking for a counselor who is going to tell you to give up on your marriage and family or yourself. (You may can just be forceful with the counselor you have now...but if he/she's already decide that your marriage should be over...may not change their mind, and just think you're in denial.)

I do agree with the lawyer...but have said that all along.

Nope, not a nutcase, just a man who took the wrong path and wants to get a good start with some support down the right path.