I need some advice here. I have the opportunity to spy on my H on Friday. He claims he is taking the day off because he has to work on Sunday and he cannot work OT. He is a maint. Supervisor at a hotel, He said one of his guys is going to New Orleans for Marti Gras and he usually works Sat & Sun so he has to fill in on Sun and hiw other worker has to fill in on Sat. It may just be a coincedence but his Ex-wife is getting married at that hotel this weekend. As I stated in my other post I do have my suspicions he is having an A. I dont have any solid proof. My friends all think Im crazy they say Im too paranoid and insecure. His mom & dad say I have a trust issue. Anyhow, He is off on friday, I asked him if I should take the day off his response was "you should save your vacation time". But I can take the day off if I want and I figure I could spy on him, but I dont know if this is a good idea or not. My friends tell me if he is not doing anything wrong & he finds out what I have done it could be the end of my marriage. I feel if I do spy and find nothing I will end this. I dont know what to do can someone please offer advice, I feel like Im going crazy I want to be able to trust my H but I also dont want to be "the last to know".

Thanks
Paula

Blondie decide if u really really want to know....... if u go looking in my experience you will find something........ just be prepared for whatever it is and what you will do with this information......... use it to leave, give an ultimatum or work it out.........

I can only agree, you have to be prepared for the worst if you decide to spy on him.