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I have been with h for 13 years married for 5. 3 small children. H had affair with my bestfriend since childhood. Began with them chatting as friends online(about a year)eventually grew into a relationship. She decided to take it a step further and move to our city with her husband and children. Was in physical relationship for a year. I was oblivous to the affair until her husband actually accused mine I defended him still did not beleive it. They both worked on me making me think he was an abusive possive husband.

Husband moved back home to work she then dumped him. I was an supportive friend thinking it was all his fault. My H grew more distant I began to question him confronted him with my suspions both denied it. Made me feel like a possesive jealous person H would tell me it was my fault our marriage was falling apart because I could not "trust" him.

Found out by checking history on computer brought me to a website for other women found our whole life story online. I was devasted, confronted husband tried to deny but then came clean. We separted for a short period. H came to me begging for a second chance realized what he did was wrong wanted to make our marriage work.

ow did not make it easy sent very intimate letters to me. Sent letters to my h begging him to come back. Followed h to work also had someone watching our home very obsessed.

H has kept his promise has had no contact with ow since D-day 07/02. Its been 9 months ow still obsessed sending letters saying that she still wants him.

Trying hard to keep our marriage together but ow making it difficult for me to heal.

georgie_girl1,
Read how affair should end. It should include NC to OW. Also use 4 rules of recovery to help your M. Please understand MB well and read as much as you can about it. Print ENQ & LBQ for each of you and fill it up. Find time to discuss it using POJA. Good Luck.

For OW, talk to lawyer or LE (law enforcement) to put RO on her. That way one more letter could land her in jail.

-rh-

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