I have been married to my H for 11 years. Last month he told me he needed to get away because he has been so frustrated with everything ie. his job, my being unemployed for 1 year, his disfunctional family, etc....
He told me his friend gave him a plane ticket to go anywhere in the US, first class. He played this game with me for 1 month not too sure where he wanted to go. He announced to me 4 days before departure that he was going to Arizona. To make a very long story short, he actually went to LA to stay with his x-wife. Upon his return he had made up so many lies there were too many inconsistencies. He ended up telling me everything. She pursued him by sending him a letter to the house 1 year ago followed by phone calls and ultimately sending him the plane ticket 4 months ago to go visit her. He covered up the phone calls by using a calling card. I found out 5 days ago and I have been devistated ever since. I have been going to counceling alone for 7 months with problems related to my marriage and being jobless for so long. Although he feels very bad and wants to save this marriage, I don't know if I can go on with this. It is bad enough being unemployed but this has been a tremendous blow. My psychologist tells me that she is not going to go away any time soon and will contact him again. She is someone without boundaries and has planned this stategy very carefully. My concern now is disease and pregnancy. Any help would be greatly appreciated. Thanks.