I just found out a week ago that my W cheated on me with my best friend. I handled it well, did not go crazy, just let her cry in my arms. We have a little boy, just turned 1 yr. I love my wife, and I always will. She has been very cooperative with communicating to me. She has been very remorsefull, and regretfull. She says she does not really understand why it happened. This is how it goes. We are both 22 yrs old. Got married almost 2 yrs ago. A month after we married, we found out that we were going to have a baby. This is where alot of our focus went towards. We did not have a chance to really soak up the newly wed feeling. I feel that both of us neglected each other to an extent. Further more she has not been with anyone else sexually before. Only me. I always knew that she would be curiouse. We are young. We got married young. We had a baby young.
We have talked about alot of things in the past week. We have tried to figure out the motivations behind what happened. We both have been wondering what it would be like to live the life of other ppl our age. I am 22, started a carrer, have a family. Most 22 yr olds are a few years behind us. I dont know if this was an escape for her from the life of being tied down in marriage, and motherhood? Or perhapse my best friend gave her something that I couldnt'. I know that he did not give her better sex. I have spoken with his girlfriend, and that part of thier relationship is not very active, as it usually is not worth the antisipation..... my wife agreed with that statement.
I know that my wife is very insecure with herself... always has been. She has had this eating disorder before, why??? I DONT KNOW!!! She is BUEATYFUL!!! Maybe when he came at her the way he did, it swept her off her feet.?? I just dont know.
All I know is that I need to find my feelings. I dont know where or what they are. When I found out I immediatlly pushed my feelings aside, and was more concerned about her, and our marriage. I still am. BUT..... I DONT WANT TO HATE MY WIFE! What man wants to hate his wife??? I should be very angry with my friend, but im not.... I dont care about him or that part of this, just my wife, my baby, and our marriage. Any insight anyone???? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
