Sue, sometimes your posts just break my heart. I wish happiness for you everytime I read them.

He doesn't deserve you... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

He's the one you need to be asking these questions, but I'm sure by now you don't expect a straight answer. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

<small>[ September 12, 2003, 07:31 PM: Message edited by: findingmywayback ]</small>

Hi,

Today is better. Probably the Zoloft. I started taking them.

Last night, H had me angry at him. He calls me on my cell phone at the study center, (before I left, and yesterday, and Friday, I told him, I was going to be there all day, they closed at 9:30). He calls and wants to know where I am, it is almost 8 pm and the kids need dinner. What is the matter with him that he could not make the kids dinner for them? I asked him on Friday if he minded if I spent the weekend at the center.

Give me a break. When I got home, I had to take out the trash, wash the dishes, clean up after the dog, help OS with homework. I wonder why I'm stressed out. H, the whole time, is sitting on the computer playing EQ. I asked him if he could give daughter her Iron supplement, he could not take time out to do that.

HI Sue
My dear friend,been there done all of that.
I feel for you so.
Right now there is only H and I at home.We gave baby back on Thurs. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> I am tired I get up early for work and have a hard time sleeping at night,it does not help that H wakes me up everynight when he comes home.
The other morning when getting ready for work and pouring my much needed coffee the handle falls off the coffee pot spilling coffee all over the counter top the floor and me. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> Ouch it was hot.I did not have time to clean it up before work so I put a towel on it.H calls me at work and asks if I spilt coffee on the floor. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
I tell him what happened.I think well he will clean it up while I am at work.That was Sat morning the floor still needs to be mopped.Guess what I will be doing on my day off <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I know what you are going through Sue.
I am truly sorry you have to deal with this.But I am still thinking of you every day and your up coming boards.Hang in there just a little longer.

I would have pulled the plug and if he complained then I would have hit him over the head with a cast iron fry pan. I'd probably be in jail now.

It makes me ashamed to be a guy sometimes.

Surely God has a place in heaven for you gals that try so hard and get so little help.

And, after you get there, put in a good word for me, I'm trying hard too.

SS

Hi Sue,

Maybe it would be empowering to plan out what steps you plan to take and when. I know I keep asking, but when are your boards??? I'm so anxious for this sitch to change....I know it's just draining you. hugs....thinking about you.

Sue-

Just dropping in here. First off, from the bon fire, I can't get W to POJA agree for me to come and get that wood that you have at home. Try as I might she doesn't want it. I wish I could so I could smack your H upside his head while I am there. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

A thought I had for you. Have you considered going to a BAN meeting? I just went to one last night and it really helps me put things in perspective. I find it very helpful.

So how about this for an idea, cancel H's plans to go out of town with OW and book flights to Orlando so you can do the MB weekend? That way he can still take his trip but then he gets the added bonus of spending time with his lovely W.

Hang in there

Hi all,

Boards are this Friday 9/19. I am so worried I will fail. I am changing my hours on Thursday so I work during the day, that way I will be home and into bed early on Thursday. I already told H, that I am not getting up during the middle of the night to let a dog out. Either he does it, or he needs to learn to take her food and water away by 8pm. (Which I will be home to make sure it happens). Friday, MIL is taking kids to school plus one daycare child. (Kids lost busing, so I give a girl a ride to school along with the boys). I plan to get up, get my good luck breakfast and go to the testing center.

Plan for future. I have written my resume, applied for jobs. Limited number of new grad jobs. One hospital called and said I was around number 60 on the waiting list. (Better to be on a list than not at all.). End of this month, it will be time to send another application to a hospital I applied at in early summer. (They retain apps for 3 months). This weekend, the hospitals on my list, will receive an application, next week nursing homes, week after that, agencies.

Plan for marriage. Once I am financially able to provide for me and the kids, I confront, if he fails to end it, or says he cannot, I implement Plan B. Call a lawyer, put in place Child custody and child support. How long will I do Plan B, I don't know. I'd like to be fair to him and give him 6 months, after all, I've had over a year to deal with this, for him, it will be a surprise. Plan B will end, when he gives her up, and agrees to counseling, or when I've decided I don't want him to come back and file. I know once I file, there is no turning back for me.

I told H, once, a long time ago, back in the dating stages, that I am a very tolerant woman, don't abuse it. When I get fed up with the crap, I walk and don't look back. When I do that, it is over and there is no more chances.

SS- the cast Iron frying pan, my brother inherited it. So, all I have is teflon coated.

STTSI, thats okay on the wood. But, if everyone wants to come over and use it to hit H over the head with, thats fine with me. We have a fire place we can burn it in.

On a brighter note, sons soccer team made the Jamboree. They play this saturday. Yesterday, H calls me at work, wants to know if I mind if he goes to Duluth with his friends JT and his gf C. I told him I minded, I wanted him home and we cannot afford it. He tried to tell me, that it will not cost that much. I reminded him, that last weekend cost 100.00, we cannot afford another 100.00 weekend, especially with him on disability. Today, after I got the call from the soccer coach informing us that they made the Jamboree, I called H. I told him, that he can't go to Duluth now because of this. He commented, Oh!, well, I will have to figure something out. He already told them he would go. I'm not surprised, he does this sort of stuff all the time.

Sue
First I will say I understand that you are worried about boards,but you are a very strong,smart,couragus woman why are you selling your self short in this area?You will pass and probably with flying colors <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
Put your confidence where it is needed right now,on the test.

Thats great about the soccer,and your H will wake up one day and wonder why his children do not have a relationship w/him.Its sad they can not see what they are doing.He is letting the most wonderful time of his life pass him by for a weekend w/friends.One thing I have learned.........when the kids grow up,they are grown up....you can not get back the time of them being small.This may sound silly and of course we all know they grow up what I am saying is they are precious non replaceable years.Once they are gone they are gone forever.

Sue you are a wonderful person.You deserve the best that life has to offer you.I know that you will survive,I'm not so sure about your H.

If my H does not change, I picture him going the same route as his dad. Maybe not as many marriages, but then again, you never know.

I am wife number two. From what MIL says, it sounds like he treated W#1 the same. Of course, this information is coming out now, and not before. If we divorce, I see, him remarrying, that one won't last. His dad has been married 4 or 5 times.

My Dad has been married 3 times since my mom died.He always complained about my mom and her short comings.Seems to me that she was not the problem other wise I think he would still be married to wife #2.
Some people are just never happy,or satisfied,they are just way to selfish.They take and take but want to give nothing in return.

Sue,
You went to school, you studied, and you are praying. Not much else you can do.

I'll add my prayers to yours, and I believe you will do well. I really do.

Just do it like you do lots of other things. Do the best you can, and don't worry about it.

Isn't that about right?

SS

Well, boards are done.

I will not know the results until next week. They told me to check on Tuesday. I have a job interveiw on Thursday. It is a weekend position. It is a start. There was not too many new grad positions open. I figure, if I have to start out working PT, then I will. Experience is experience. You can't get it by waiting for the perfect job to open up.

I'm also talking to a friend about working for him PT. We need the money. It is doing telemarketing for his company. My studen loan payment starts in Novemeber. If I fail the NCLEX, I need to bring in extra income some how. If I pass the test, and get the job, then I will not need to the the telemarketing. I do know of someone else who could use the job. Starting next week I am going to fine tune my resume, and mail them out once I know I passed.

I will let you know once I know. At least, right now it is over. If I fail, 90 more days to study. If I pass, then I'm done, and life can resume.

I've got my fingers crossed for ya Sue. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Sue my dear friend,
I know that you passed don't think any other way <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
Have a fun restful weekend.
Look forward to talking to you again real soon.

I PASSED!!!!!!!

Congrats Sue! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

HoFS

Am I actually going to get to be the first one to say congratulations???? We never doubted you! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

YIPPEEEEEEEEEEE! Star doing the snoopy dance....yes yes yes! I never doubted you! One step at a time chere!

Yessss!
I am SOOOO proud of you! You can DO anything you set your eyes on!
You encourage me.
FBOW

Hi Sue,
I am so happy for you.

Many prayers have been answered, but I know you had to do your part too.

Congratulations.
(and that's an understatement!)

SS