I have been married for six months now. I'm married to a great man. He's a perfect gentleman and a hard worker. He was a virgin when we got married. I was not, in fact I already had a son. We had some difficult times financially at the beginning of our marriage which caused strife and division so there was no sex the first three months. Now that has changed, we have sex about once or twice a week now. And it's great. He's not a minute man, he can last for a long time, even longer then I can. The only problem is that he will not have an orgasm. He hasn't had one the entire time we've been having intercourse. Not once since we've been married. I'm concerned that I don't satisfy him completly, even though he says I do. He says it's him. But what could it be? And even though I do have orgasims, I still am not completly satisfied because he doesn't. It leaves me sad and sometimes depressed. Why won't he have an orgasm? Is it me?

<small>[ March 22, 2003, 02:00 PM: Message edited by: mrs. mason ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by mrs. mason:
<strong>Why won't he have an orgasm? Is it me?</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">This is just my 2¢, I am not sex therapist. Ask him, ask him how he could reach it. Also ask him about what turn him on ... touching ?, sexy lingerie ? ... if mastubation would get him, ask him to teach you his pleasure point. Also for martians, we avoid the orgasm to buy time or keep it longer time to give pleasure to our mate but sometime we over do it such that we got into trouble of reaching it. If that is the case, tell him to let it go the first time and not to hold it. I really recomend you to seek therapy, not even once is beyond me, there might be something lies beneath it.

Have you discuss your feeling about this with him in a great length ?

-rh-