I just discovered, although I had my suspicions that my husband has been having an affair with my best friend of 20 years. We have been together for 13 years, married for 4, no kids. I had confronted him a month and a half ago; told him that I was getting really weird vibes from the both of them, that I was afraid that something was going to happen between them because of all the sexual inuendos and flirting that was taking place. He told me that he was so hurt that I would EVER think such things and I eventually apologized for my twisted thoughts.

When I confronted my ex-BF the other day with a very damning e-mail I found she too was just in complete disbelief that I could ever think such things and she begged me to believe her that she would NEVER think of crossing such a line. She loved my like a sister and we were like her family.

After an extensive investigation, and with more proof in hand, I begged my husband to confess and he did. He confirmed that they had slept together of a few occasions and that it has been since January. Most of their correspondence had been through vulgar e-mails (with hidden accounts I might add).

I am completely devestated with this malicious betrayal. I feel completely dead except for the discusting images that won't leave my head. I can't sleep or eat... My husband of course has run away from all this....drove down to Florida like a coward. I haven't even seen him since he confirmed my worst fears...I am scared to death and don't even know what my first words should be....

Can anyone shed light on what I should do...

I have already seen a lawyer...it was my gut instinct to do so...

I'd appreciate any insight or advice
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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Nini:
<strong>I have already seen a lawyer...it was my gut instinct to do so...</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Nini, go against your gut instinct ... don't file. You could see to check your right nothing more. Welcome to MB. Learn as much as you can about MB, many has use them o travel the narrow path and able to survive this A. Go through Basic concept & general welcome as starter then the links to important posts.

Now you have to sit down and be honest with yourself ... if WH does the right thing, end A and ammends you and willing to work on reaching fullfilling M ... would you take him back ?. Many M survive A ... many had made mistake but the most important is what they learned out from it.

-rh-

Nini,

Your H is home now isn't he? You are very confused and hurt aren't you? Then my advice follow's RH's, don't make any decisions right now. You have plenty of time to see lawyers and file for divorce,but that may not be the right thing for you to do.

You also might want to read this board carefully for the information it contains regarding your situation. I also suspect your H is posting here as well.

So Nini, post, ask questions, do alot of reading, and let time and patience guide you in your recovery. You have had a double betrayal and it takes time to recover from something like this.

God Bless,

JL

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