Has anyone had their spouse realize that A partner is not what they thought they were all about?
My H claims he is in LOVE and she is it for him.
I can't imagine that he really even knows her from the stolen minutes together at work.
I wonder if there is any time line till the spouse comes back and says they were wrong?
Does anyone have any comments?

He tells me, it's not me, it's all him. He is the one that has changed.

Thanks!

Affairs USUALLY last less than 2 years, whether the spouse finds out or not. Discovery USUALLY hastens the end of the affair, as does exposure to friends, family, colleagues, etc.

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Hi

My H told me that he love the OW. He also told me that he loved her like he could never love me. Great yeh......... Strong words.

Over three months on he does not love her anymore and he tells me that he never stopped loving me and the kids. (I think this may have been the famous FOG he had been in!!) I know now that he did care for her but not the kind of love a H & W have together.

Hang on in there and things will get better, take it from one who's heart was truely broken by his words.

Listen to the words of all the guys here on MB. There is a lot of wisdom out there, a lot of experience. I would not be where I am today without them.

I will be praying for you friend.

Kathurt

Hi there,

my H had an affair for 3 months. He too felt that this was "True Love". When he came out of his "Fog" he realized that he actually didn't know "anything" about her!
Nothing made sense anymore.
Examples:
-OW told him that she was a "hard worker" and she saved every penny she earned, but she was a "Stay at Home" wife without kids!
-She hated "Cats" but had 13 of her own!
-She hardly spend any money but she was always "Dressed" in the newest style and she bought him VERY expensive gifts!! (with her H's money!)
-She always thought about "other people's" feelings and never would "Hurt" anyone!
-Her H only made her life miserable and he worked too much! DUH.....he made it possible for her to have a comfortable life. (she didn't have to work, she had a beautiful house, horses and everything you could dream of and he had to work in order to make this possible for her!)
-OW told my H that she would "give up everything" for him. But she wanted to keep her house, her horses, her car, and she would make sure that her H would pay for her!!! DUH........
-OW told my H that she "loved children" and that it's so easy to get along with kids mostly "teenagers" but she got operated years ago, to make sure that she never had any of her own!!!

So what does this tell you???? My H didn't know anything about this "OW". His hormones were working "High Speed" and his brain fell into his pants during his affair!!!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />
He can't believe that he believed all of this "Crap" at this time of his life!! And it didn't take much time for him to realize this. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

take care
bb