I am still hurting/have no reason to as my wife wants to remain committed to the marriage but my heart continues to mourn the loss of the woman in McAllen, Texas.

I cannot go back in time but I also remember that there were many warning signs that the affair was ending and I should have stopped the relationship.

I am so shameful for my wife. One wonders how long this is going to last if I don't give the affection and the attention to her. She has been asking things like "What was her favorite perfune?" and what did you do together??

By asking me these questions, she is hurting even more with the responses.

I do not mean to be rude but the Mexican Culture breeds affairs. Good explanation as to why they have so many children.

The woman I had the affair with will continue breaking apart marriages.

Not my problem anymore-----right??

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by RANDYRAIL:
<strong>I am still hurting/have no reason to as my wife wants to remain committed to the marriage but my heart continues to mourn the loss of the woman in McAllen, Texas.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Yes, it is called withdrawal. You are not mourning OW but your are mourning the looses of ENs that OW fillin. So you have to let your wife fillin those ENs ASAP and dont' shut her down.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><strong>I cannot go back in time but I also remember that there were many warning signs that the affair was ending and I should have stopped the relationship.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Live, Learn & Love ... one wise teenager told me once.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"><strong>By asking me these questions, she is hurting even more with the responses.</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">This is one of the ammend that you have to give her .... RADICAL HONESTY. She will ask and ask and ask again the same questions over and over and over again .... you better give her honest answer. It is not to hurt her but it is part of healing process for her. She loves you she has decided to take you back, she needs to know for herself.