I have been with my husband for 14 yrs. We dated for 5 of these 14 yrs,then got married. He's 6 years younger than me. He was incarcerated for selling drugs and was given a 5yrs sentence after being married for one month. I remained faithful to him during his time away since I loved him so much! Once he was released, after the first year of living together as husband/wife things began to change. He was staying out late sometimes not even coming home for days. I feared he was going back to the life style of drug dealing. I was hearing things from other people that he had been seen with different women in public places like nite clubs, movies and etc.. I never seen it my self, I WAS ALWAYS TOLD AFTER THE FACT, so never had any real proof. Sometimes I feel I may be the one who caused him to stray. My job at that time consisted of a lot of travel. So I was not home much, he constantly would ask me about having children but I wasn't ready yet. My career was too demanding and we were just barely getting to know what life was like as husband/wife. He was working part time and going to trade school so I didn't push the issue about the clubing. Just figured it was gossip. Then after a year of living in marital bliss, I decided to surprise him by getting preganant. since he had been asking for us to start a family for sometime now. Then that's when the real problems started, I found out he had been living a double life with another pregnant girl. I left him for a couple of months, he begged to come back home and work our marriage out. I agreed and we confronted the other woman together. He told her it was over between them and he would help support the child once it was born but was going to stay with me and our soon to be baby. That worked for a little while until she had the baby then he was back over there. Using the excuse of being part of his child's life and continuing seeing the mother. Till this day it's the same thing back and forth from home to home using the children as a reason for him to be part of each of our lives. I love my husband and don't want to give him up but I can't take it anymore, will it ever end or will I just have to file for divorce?
