My H has been having an affair he says for about 6 months. I still think it is longer. He has totally cleaned out all his papers, secrete boxes in his drawers etc. He has been affectionate over the last two days. We are awaiting counselling on Monday. He does not want to discuss anything lest we start an arguement and say things we might regret.

My problem is the trust thing still. He says he has a meeting after work tonight with a business associate. He told me the company name and the person he was going to see. He also told me that on Thursday he had to go to a function at work and then he was going to see a friend who is laid up with a broken leg.

I have a strong desire to follow him, park outside these establishments and ensure his whereabouts. Am I setting my self up for trouble. I have given him lots of room to help him"figure out his brain" all week. I feel like the ball is totally in his court and he can chose to stay or continue the affair. He says he has told the person that I know. He however will not discuss the issue further. He is away on business next week and then the week after. How do I stop from going completely crazy while he is away??

Any suggestions.