After I posted I thought about this some more and the more I thought about it, the more mad it made me.<P>I think Sheba was very wise and from your wife's perspective, probibly correct.<P>However, wankboy took your girls' mom away from them. He has shattered all of your lives, at least in the present.<P>And he sends a little something at Christmas?<P>Please.......................<P>------------------<BR>Faith, Hope, Love Remain,<BR>but the greatest of these is Love.<BR>1 Corinthians 13:13

Hey Chris -<P>Funny that you mention just thinking <BR>that you didn't get anything.....<P>I had written something about asking <BR>where your presents were.....after all <BR>you're all one big "normal family" in <BR>their eyes apparently......how <BR>warped!!!!! Must be drugs!!!<P>But didn't want to go there.....so I <BR>deleted it!!!!<P>I thought about you though!!!! <P>(wink-wink)!!!!!!!<P>HUGS,<P>Sheba<P>

okay, I'm gonna cuss some more, plug your ears (or disconnect your speakers )<P>She is just so f&cking ignorant! What the h3ll did I marry? She's gotta have a brain tumor or something! How does she think she can just bring him into the family <B>WHEN WE ARE STILL MARRIED?!? SHE'S A LUNATIC!</B><P>If we lived on Planet [censored] hole, she'd be the Queen of toilet paper! This just makes me so freakin' crazy! I cannot understand the mentality of someone who would do this kinda crap! I hope they get married & it blows up in a year! I'll just f@ckin laugh in her face!<BR>One big, loud <B>HAH!</B><P>(venting over!)<P>I'm almost ready to send them back! I'm seriously thinking about it!<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>

Don't send them back, just change the tags... the kids need to know mommy (even if she's insane right now) loves them enough to send a gift. <P>Yeah, maybe she has a tumor, or maybe she's stoned out of her mind... the more I think about it, the more I agree with Sheba too... spoiled rotten teenager - that's what she is!<P><P>------------------<BR>Life is what happens to you while you are busy making other plans.<P>~John Lennon

There are a few with just her name on it.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>

At least you have something very interesting to show your lawyer... I recommend saving your W's little "Christmas gift" - it may possibly be of great value to you in the future if you decide to divorce. <P>I feel sorry for your kids having such a freak for a mother, and sorry for you to have such BS in your life. {{{hugs}}} for both you and your kids...<P>------------------<BR>~~ Elixir ~~<P>

{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{{Chris}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}<P>I agree with all of the above and was sitting here trying to think how else I could blast your wife and this is what came to me:<P>"we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principlaities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places" (Eph 6:12)<P>I pray that you will be strong in the Lord and put on the whole armor of God, so you can stand against the wiles of the devil in the evil day. That you will gird your waist with truth and put on the breatplate of righteousness, having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace. That you will be enabled to take up the sheild of faith, with which to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one. I pray that you will take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the Word of God, praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful and standing strong to the end (Eph 6:13-18.)<P>Don't forget how eloquently the Lord works, afterall, He made it possible that my H's OW and his housemate got together...and this is after housemate knew my H was boinking her for a year and a half. It lets me know that even if my marriage doesn't make it, God cares and I'll be alright. As will you.<P>God Bless.<P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Do not get tired of doing what is right, for after awhile you will reap a harvest of blessings if you do not get discouraged and give up. (Gal 6:9)<P><BR>

Hey Chris:<P>Does this go in the "lovebuster" column for her???<P>Maybe she's making all her withdrawals from your lovebank now---she's not sure that it's Y2K compliant... <P>Seriously---I know how this feels, but it's really not surprising. Again, it just goes to illustrate the insanity and addictive nature of the affair. The holiday period is the toughtest to get through---enjoy your kids. They're smart---and they love you very much.

Chris:<P>I feel for ya, man... Dunno what else to say, except keep being strong. Yet another facet to the addiction.<P>Too bad your girls don’t get together without your knowledge and send the things back themselves... Donna’s not only draining <B>YOUR</B> LoveBank, she’s sucking the girls’ accounts dry as well. She doesn’t even know it...<P>Oh, and Hi, K... was wondering if you were around. Appears there’s folx over on Lacee’s thread advising her to continue lying to her H in the aftermath of her affair... I was wondering where you were. I figured you could smell violations of the Rule of Honesty and nose in like a bloodhound... <BR><P>------------------<BR>Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die

Hi Chris,<P> Whoa, what IS that woman thinking? You know I often wondered about the drug thing with her because I have a brother who is majorly messed up and he does/says/thinks the stangest things....Your W's behavior always seemed so extreme but then infidelity be itself can do some strange things.....Hang in there, Chris, you have every right/reason to be mad Lu

Building on K's comment, maybe it's time for a strict Plan B from you since she is obviously withdrawing her last remaining love units from your bank. I think it's time to protect and build up yourself. I hope the rest of your holiday season goes better.

The OW and her kids have been giving my kids gifts for months. Just looking at the gifts makes me sick. So far the only thing I have forbidden is the dark purple nail polish she gave my ten year old. But she is, according to my H, "so nice" to the kids.<P>My older kids now see their father as nothing more than a source of money.

someone please tell me what a wankboy is.

Frankie,<BR>A wankboy is a person who takes what is not his. Who doesn't care who he hurts with his selfish actions and words. Actually I think YOU know very well what one is.

Hey Chris,<P>I think part of the reasoning is to make everything look "normal" so that her situation can be accepted. My ew was doing that kind of stuff over the summer. She wanted to take om to her parents to pickup our son. That was less than a month after she left me. She couldn't understand why her father was Pi$$ed and said he would let him in his house.<P>I keep waiting for her to ask our friends to go out with them. Can't wait to hear about that!<P>------------------<BR>"You can't always get what you want! But if you try real hard,you might just find, you get what you need!"<BR>Mick Jagger<BR>

Not that this has a lot to do with subject....But I love that name you call OM. My oldest daughter (9) calls her dads girlfriend "quarter". Since she isn't allowed to say Whore. Even though I shouldn't, sometimes I laugh......when she says it.<BR>Nancy

As a single parent, experiencing the same thing you're going thru, you are in my prayers. I think its often easy to focus on your pain; your imagination goes wild thinking of your spouse having a wonderful Norman Rockwell Christmas without the stress of children, present shopping and wrapping, sick kids. While my now ex-H may have the OW, I have two kids that I get to see every day. While I am extremely stressed at times, I am the one that they come to with problems, giggles, homemade Christmas presents. Focus on the fact that you have the best friends of all with you - your kids.

sara p, until i read the term here, i had never hear of it. i thought the term might have been made up by cris ca123 to mean the guy who was his wifes' om.

Actually, if we're getting formal here, I think "wank" is a derivative of "[censored]", aka a male member.