I haven't posted for a week but lots has been going on. <BR>First i had to call the cops due to OW psycho phone calls and foul language. Pure harrassment as far as I'm concerned. Cops called her at work and told her she needed to lay off the calls. She said she only wanted to speak to my H. So the calls have stopped and my H wanted nothing to do with her.<BR>Next we hauled a load of crap she had given him over to her scuzzy apartment. She screamed and flipped the fickle finger of fate! What a woman.<BR>She threatened to come to our church on Sunday and told the Pastor she was going to make everyone know how she felt. They stood guard at the door but she never showed.<BR>My life is a soap opera. How do I find peace amongst all of this horror?<BR>A woman scorned is one thing but this is ridiculous. My H seems to be in shock and fully relieved that the truth is finally in the open, even if it took her to bring it out.<BR>Why oh why didn't he have the courage to tell me himself? I don't understand.<BR>My heart is shattered.......

Heartlove,<BR>At least it's out in the open now and you and H can work on rebuilding. Keep your chin up. <BR>Viki

heartlove,<P>Try as best you can to keep looking forward - not backwards!<P>He is there with you, so use your time and energy to rebuild you rmarriage, as Viki suggests. This woman willprobably n=be a thorn inyour side for awhile. EXPECT it and thenmaybe it won't be so bad as it does happen....<P>Wishing you the best...<P>Roll Me Away<P>------------------<BR>"Life is made up, not of great sacrifices or duties, but of little things in which smiles and kindnesses and small obligations, given habitually, are what win and preserve the heart and secure comfort."<P>Sir Humphry Davy<BR>

Hey...<P>It's been barely a week...<P>You've done alot already...<BR>You'll get to it all one day at a time... <P>Keep reading...<BR>Keep posting...<P>God will help you through all of this... <P>Go back to your first post <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum1/HTML/010573.html" TARGET=_blank>Just found out!</A> when you need help.<P>We're still praying for you... <P>Jim

Hey, maybe our Hs had the same psycho stalker!!!<P>Hang in there, the pain is still so fresh. Keep trying, it WILL be okay!!! <P>------------------<BR>Laura<P>"I cannot care a little for you. I love you only just enough to love you all the way."~~Rod McKuen<P>

On the positive side, she's alienated you BOTH (together, you two against the world) and the pain he'll feel in early recovery is the pain that will keep him from ever doing it again---!!!!!!!!!!! <P>Keep up the good work.

Vicki,<BR>Yes, its in the open but now what do I do with it. How do you rebuild when you've been living a lie. He says he loves me and was held a prisoner for all this time because he would lose me if he told me the truth.<P>Roll Me Away,<P>I'm trying to look forward but all I can see right now is the ugly present. Again, how do I rebuild when the foundation has collapsed. Thorn in the flesh yes, but she really thinks my H loves her. She believes she will have a future with him.<P>NSR,<P>Ya, barely a week but it feels like an eternity. Thanks for the pep talk. I did get the book SAA. Should I post any new updates on my original post? I just needed to talk to someone about this latest development. At least she is staying away.<P>Lucks,<P>You mean to say there are other women out there who go stark raving crazy? I thought they would have the descency to fade into the woodwork.<P>One other thing. She calls me god. As if I am the one who is running the show. I didn't even know about it. What a tangled web of deceit.<p>[This message has been edited by heartlove (edited December 16, 1999).]

I agree that now that it's in the open and you two are on the same side, you can get started with the recovery. <P>I know your foundation's shaken. But you can build it back, stronger than ever. It will take a lot of time, but it will be worth the effort.<P>Hang in there, Ok? One day at a time.<P>Lori

I think it's good that its out in the open.....Now your H knows and is aware of the reality & ugliness of it all. He is seeing what the OW is truly like and what she is capable of doing. I'm sure he won't make the same mistake again. Just Plan A him and let him know that you are sticking with him no matter what. You both will get through this...I know you will!

So husband gets to see what a CRAZY he decided to fool around with. Don't you wish that he had spent more time getting to know all about her before he started an affair? That way he could have saved a lot of people the aggrevation of dealing with this gal's totally nutty antics.<P>You are now clear of her. Your H's rejection is driving her nuts right now, but she will run out of steam in that SHE HAS NOTHING!!! YOU HAVE IT ALL.<P>You, on the otherhand, need to stay powerful and start that rebuilding. Use the adreline that you feel caused by her high cherades to your benefit. H now sees he made big, big mistake. That is a wonderful step in the right direction.<P>My H still doesn't really have a full understanding on how the OW contributed to the start of their sleazy affair. She stalked him and provided many opportunities for them to be alone, yet he does not see it that way and only blaims himself.<P>As far as your life being a soap opera, join the club. We all have crazy stories that match, if not make, common soap operas boring.

Thanks Everyone,<P>I am Plan A'ing it! I never even thought of the fact that all of this is proving what a psycho she is. Thank you for causing me to see that she has been alienating herself through all of her tirades. I have been emotionally a mess but otherwise I have been acting with determination and direction. <P>One thing she said which is hard for me to throw is that she will always be between my H and me. That sounds too prophetic for me to handle right now BUT what a horrible prophesy to lay on anyone. Poor loser I guess but cruel, cruel, cruel.