Was listening to Metallica this morning (I listen to hard rock when I'm upset or angry), and The Unforgiven II came on. It just kind of struck me the parallels in this song to infidelity. I'm not sure if anyone else would find the logic of my madness interesting, but here's what I heard:

The Unforgiven II

Lay beside me, tell me what they've done
Speak the words I wanna hear, to make my demons run
The door is locked now, but it's open if you're true
If you can understand the me, than I can understand the you...

This seems like a paragraph that relates well to the BS. Don't we just all want to hear those words, "I love you; She/he meant nothing to me; I want to be the spouse God wants of me" ??? How many times have we said or thought, "If you could just understand my pain, I could handle ___" or "It'd be easier to open up to you if I knew you wouldn't hurt me again?"


"Lay beside me, under wicked sky
The black of day, dark of night, we share this bed of lies
The door cracks open, but there's no sun shining through
Black hearts scarring darker still, but there's no sun shining
through..."

Doesn't this just feel like the marital relationship during the affair???

What I've felt, what I've known
Turn the pages, turn the stone
Behind the door
Should I open it for you?

Yeah, what I've felt, what I've known
Sick and tired, I stand alone
Could you be there, 'cause I'm the one who waits for you
Or are you unforgiven too?...

This again, seems like a BS statement here.
You know what's going on, you can't prove it.. it makes you nuts, you confront them. You're tired of the games, you feel alone in your marriage... ack!


Lay beside me, tell me what I've done
The door is closed, so are your eyes
But now I see the sun, now I see the sun
Yes, now I see it

What I've felt, what I've known
Turn the pages, turn the stone
Behind the door
Should I open it for you?

Yeah, what I've felt, what I've known
So sick and tired, I stand alone
Could you be there, 'cause I'm the one who waits
The one who waits for you...

I take this key
And I bury it in you
Because you're unforgiven too

our desire to give in.

That song is totally true, it really makes you think, Your right about one thing, you want to hear all the"I love you's" and the "It meant nothing to me", but the sad fact is that if someone cheats with someone more than once, it obviously did mean something otherwise they wouldn't of gone back, again and again. I've been reading a lot on the web site and it kind of gives me hope to know that other people have gone through the same thing and that they're realtionships have survived and even improved, but then again if you put all your hopes and dreams into things getting better how do you know when your just grasping at loose ends??