My marriage has come to an end and I am really concerned for our daughter. My H wants to stay in the house. I don't care anymore, but I know this is going to be hell for our daughter. This has been an amazing website to run across.

Just a word of advice to anyone who cares. Honesty IS the best policy. If your spouse has fessed up realize that it was a difficult thing to do. I came clean about my issues and have struggled with my feelings for the OM (EA) for almost a year now. My H did a great job with all of the advice that he found out here, but he left one very important piece out- honesty. I know it's hard to do it, but it's really important. Details are not necessary and I am not really looking for any advice. I just felt like writing.

I am not angry anymore. I really feel a lot of peace now. I'm just scared of the next steps. I'm just going to pray a lot and read all I can about how to help our daughter through this.

God bless all of you! Everyone on this sight is hurting in one way or another, I hope you all find your peace.

To my H,
When you read this please know that I truly wish you well. I don't have bitterness. We are both human. We couldn't get our marriage right, but we can still do right by our daughter. God bless you.

with love & grace,
L

This is my first time to post on here. I have been reading your thread and I felt compelled to reply. I've been where you are. Some of the details are different, byt the pain is the same. From experience, I can assure you that what you are about to do will forever harm your daughter. It doesn't matter how careful you are, you are destroying the foundation her life has been built on. Sometimes we need to step back and see what we are doing from a different perspective. You said that you have left this in God's hands for his will be done. God hates divorce! If you are truly willing for his will be done, step back and ask God what he is trying to teach you and then let him turn your marriage into the marriage he intended it to be. Not the one you and your husband have created by doing things your own way. My heart goes out to the three of you, but your daughter is the one who will be hurt the most. Sometimes grownup have to act like grownups and simply do the right thing. Usually after we do the right thing long enough, it becomes the right thing. I pray that you both will get out of the way and let God turn your hearts toward hime and toward each other. When God puts us in a marriage and then blesses that marriage with a child, we have an awesome responsibility to cherish that gift.