After session with Harley I'm back in Plan A. Called husband last night. He wzs polite and offered a little conversation. Asked if he would like to come for Christmas. Said he'd have to think about it and talk to His counselor (not Harley) Left him a voice mail this am said Christmas with all the family may be to much pressure would he like to go out for dinner or come over for Sunday dinner. Left it that if he was interested he could call me, I would not call him. He called later today and said he'd like to come Sunday and visit Son and dog and have dinner. He offered to grill steaks (his specialty). I am encouraged but disappointed that he did not ask for us to go out together. Am I expecting to much to soon? Does he just want to see S and dog or me to? Guess I'll find out. Anyone with suggestions for first meeting after seperation?

Hurtin in Tx,<P>I think you really should lower your expectations just a bit.<P>The news that he is coming is great... <BR>That he'll make the steaks... great... <P>Keep the pressure on yourself to expect more down...<P>It's a long process...<P>Prayers for a good holiday... <P>Jim

Thanks Jim, you are right. It helps for someone to keep reminding me.<P>Have a Great Day!

Hi Hurtin,<P>Yes, as Jim says, take it slow. No expectations. Just enjoy the time spent together.