Caught my wife March 21.I had a friend follow her to a club.She met a man there from work and started dancing with him very sexually ie: all over each other.At one point she kissed him on the dance floor in public!Later in the night she and him went to take a drunk friend of there's from work to a car,upon returning to the club my wife pulled the guy behind the bar and started kissing him.I called the co-workers wife she had told me she also had a feeling something was going on but she did not know who with.When my wife came home i confronted her.She told me that it was a friendship that started to get out of hand.She said that she had fallen in love with this man but that she was handling it and was on the verge of ending it.She said it was not physical but emotional.Is it possible to be so deeply involved with someone and not have sex.We are talking about 4 months here of feelings for each other.We are presently in counseling and my wife says she loves me and are 2 kids,but she still works with this man and has to see him every day!Is it possible to get through this when a spouse still sees there lover every day of the week.From everything I have read all contact should be broke off... Help !!!

I think you know the answer. Even if she avoids the other man at work, it will drive you nuts knowing that he is there.

I think it is very possible your wife was not physical with other man. However, just as in my case, I think an emotional attachment can be worse and eventually leads to a physical one.

Keep up the counseling and suggest your wife transfer or find another employer.

No contact is required for recovery. If your couselor does not tell you this, find another one, because they are incompetant. Click on the link in my signature line for more info on the path to recovery.

jmg...yes, it's possible to be involved without sexual contact...depending on what you mean by sexual contact...there is a discussion on this issue on the general board. If you're talking about sexual contact being sexual intercourse. To my way of thinking...she is involved in a PA rather it went "all the way" or not. Besides that to me isn't the issue...she is having an affair! That's the point...EA or PA...it's an affair.

You're W needs to find a new job...today! I know we often can't just up and quit...but we do not have to stay in the job we are now doing if that job is harmful to the marriage. JMHO