Is it normal for my H to seem so angry all the time?<P>We have been having some problems like him going out all night and stuff. Then a call from OW saying he was with her the night he got home at 5 in the morning. He denies it and a lot of reasons point to him telling the truth.<P>Anyway...I am almost to the breaking point because after all that he went out on Wednesday night and was suppose to be home between 8:30 and 9 so I could get together with a friend. He ended up not getting home until 1:30 in the morning.<P>So anyway the anger thing. He seems so angry. He came home last night and said he had a headache and was tired so he went to lay down. I tried to wake him up 4 times and finally let him sleep all night. Then he wakes me this morning and seems mad at me because he slept too long. <P>It seems like everything I say or do just gets him in a bad mood. I try to talk to him and he always says what did I do now. I don't think only about the negative but he is really stressing that part right now. I just feel like he is always angry at me.<P>I just want to crawl in bed and hide until things are good again (wish it was that easy)<P>Stacy T.<BR>(Did I ever really get to the point?? LOL) <P><BR><P>------------------<BR>Jaded Heart<BR>____________<P> <A HREF="http://journeys.webprovider.com" TARGET=_blank>http://reflect.to/journeys</A> <P> <BR>

Sweetie, it seems like he's angry all the time because he <B>IS</B> angry all the time.<P>You are doing nothing wrong!<P>I know you know this, but it sounds like guilt is pushing him, and possibly, just possibly, he is still seeing the OW. Honey, I know you don't want to look at this closely, but with the late nights, the anger, and the OW calling... oh sweetie, I know it hurts to see, but what do you think deep in your heart? <P>I'm sending you a BIG hug,<BR>~Sheryl

Thanks Sheryl,<BR>At this point and time I do believe mostly (still some normal doubts) that he isn't seeing her. Since this started I have been keeping a journal on my webpage and I had written in there about him not coming home that Friday. He didn't come home Monday until 1:30 in the morning. I didn't post about that on my webpage. So I got the call saying he had been out there Friday...I thought what about Monday?? If he was still seeing her wouldn't he have been there both nights? Or am I just fooling myself into believing. I also told him Wednesday night that I wanted him to leave because I don't feel he is serious about making this work and he told me he wasn't going out anymore and that he is here and wants it to work. Than last night when I wanted to talk he seemed angry....<BR>Ok, so I am just so confused and don't even know what to do anymore! I don't know what is true and what is not.<BR>So I am at a loss for what to do...<P>Stacy T.<BR><P>------------------<BR>Jaded Heart<BR>____________<P> <A HREF="http://journeys.webprovider.com" TARGET=_blank>http://reflect.to/journeys</A> <P> <BR>

I noticed, while my H was involved in his affair, he was angry and cold, a lot. If I would suspect something and voice my suspicions and why I felt this way, (woman's intuition) he would get angry and defensive. After all...even though he wouldn't admit it, my suspicions were correct! When we went to therapy, I asked him to tell me the truth, and found out that I had been right all along.<P>I think that the guilt is eating away at your H. That's why he is angry. My H did the same thing...going out until all hours of the night...I didn't know where he was, etc. etc. etc. Go with your intuition. At least, I did. It seemed that I was always right!

Thanks No Trust<BR>So do you think I should confront him?<P>Just lovingly tell him I think something is going on?<BR>Stacy<P>------------------<BR>Jaded Heart<BR>____________<P> <A HREF="http://journeys.webprovider.com" TARGET=_blank>http://reflect.to/journeys</A> <P> <BR>