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Hi everyone,
I am brand new here and I found out not to long ago that my husband had an affair! We are trying to work things out but he can't get over this experience. In the meantime, I am going nuts trying to figure out what to do in this relationship! The feelings of betrayal are so severe that I hate every blonde that I see! I have that bottomless pit on my stomach that will not go away. I want to cry every second but I can't because I am also very numb!
I feel like I am living someone else's nightmere and will some day snap out of it! I am very realistic in trying to figure out why this whole mess began with. I love my husband but hate him at the same time! He turned into something that is beyond belief! I look at him and want to work it out! But then, I want to slap him and hurt him the way he had hurt me! He took all my dreams and used them with ho-blonde! He took away my identity as well as my sexual identity! Funny, I am afraid to have a bad hair day around him because I am afraid I will look unattractive to him! I feel that I always have to look my best or he will think otherwise! Oooh he makes me soo angry! Sorry I am not getting too much into detail he reads this!
Any suggestions?
Bestill 28
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So sorry. It hurts like you don't think you can breathe. I remember.
We are 7 years recovered.
Please let us know some of the particulars of your situation....
Your ages.
Any kids?
How long married?
How long A lasted?
Previous A's?
Confession by your H or discovery by you?
When was D-day?
Any addiction or abuse issues?
Therapy?
Any contact after D-day?
Who else knows?
Who knew and did not tell you?
...... Try sorting all of this out.
Have you read any books on surviving an affair? Has your H read any books?
Pepper
<small>[ April 23, 2003, 09:02 PM: Message edited by: Pepperband ]</small>
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