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I sent my Plan B letter yesterday....I don't know, maybe I wasn't convincing enough. Since he received the letter, hmmmm, around 3pm yesterday, I received two phone calls after the receipt, and at least 20 calls today. However, none of the calls were of the "I'm sorry, I love you nature...." They were more hostile and I'm doing things for spite, and what do I want, etc., etc." He even gave me the line, 'What do you want me to do...come back?" I cannot change my work number, but I'm so frazzled. Any advice would be much appreciated.
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So sorry that your H is being such a "butt". I figure your boss at work knows that you're separated...before he/she notices that your H is calling you during working hours 20+ times, I'd give him/her a heads up so that he/she knows this is NOT of your doing. Then tell H the next time he calls that your boss said that this was a business phone for business reason....that he will have to stop calling unless he'd like a restraining order put in force (even if the boss doesn't want to get in the middle).
Plan B is difficult...if you have caller ID on the office phone, then whenever you see his number come up...either let it go to VM or answer with this: "Sorry, this is a business I can NOT speak to you." Then hang up the phone. Do NOT listen to whatever he is attempting to say. He's only upsetting you and this could cause trouble for you on your job. JMHO
This rampant calling after a Plan B letter is to discover if you are serious about limiting contact with him. He wants to see if he can keep control of you and the situation. You've taken that control away from him, he is now trying very hard to regain it. Keep strong!
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Since he received the letter, hmmmm, around 3pm yesterday, I received two phone calls after the receipt, and at least 20 calls today. However, none of the calls were of the "I'm sorry, I love you nature...." They were more hostile and I'm doing things for spite, and what do I want, etc., etc." Extremely typical.
It sort of shows them that THEY are NOT in control of you or your situation anymore. They have pretty much gotten what they wanted for the last xx months and now they can't have everything exactly like they want it.
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Hang tight karena! He's like the three year old that has just had the forgotten lollipop jerked out of his hand, even though he wasn't eating it, he screams. Don;t let it frazzle you. Enjoy the fact that just by cutting ties, you have made yourself the foremost person in his thoughts! HAHAHAHAHAH!!!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Please dont give up. YOU CAN DO THIS!!!!!!
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