HI! I am new to this post and I'm not really sure where to post this! Me and my H have been married since 1996, I'm 42 and he is 43. He has been working in a night club in and out for 4 years which I have been against from the very start. the first 2 years I started to notice a difference in his actions toward me, where we would go to dinner on the weekend and take in a movie started to change to every other weekend to only a movie to doing nothing. he started staying late at work and then coming home and sleeping on the recliner in our room. I started finding phone numbers in his jacket and wallet and would confront him about them he would of course get mad because I was snooping in his stuff and I would get no answer about the numbers. things seem to settle down so I forget or just wanted to let things go and hope for the best. A year later I started working and meeting people at my work place that knew of my husband. they would tell me things they seen him do or say which hurt. I couldn't think straight and every time he left for work it would crush me so much. I again attepted to confront the issue and all he would say is they are lying they are probably people I had to throw out of the club. after that he started to be a little more attentive towards me but still will not look for another job and he would tell be not to even think about asking him to quit cause he won't! Now I am told some new info from a co-worker who knew my husband before she knew me. she told me that the first time she met him, he asked her when she has going to let him take her home. and she figure he wasn't married because of the fact he never wore his wedding band. I confronted him again about his behavior and he told me that if I tryed I wouldn't be able to find anything on him because he not doing anything and who is telling me things, of course I will not give the name of this person because she told me in confidence. Oh and I forgot there a woman who works in the
video department in market we shop at. I may be nothing but the other day I get a phone call from her saying that the movie my husband was waiting for is in. and if she can please speak to him, I said you can tell me the movies name and I'll give him the message. she just said uh its uh uh I'll call back! she calls back 2 minutes later with the name of the movie that he's already seen, I then tell her He's already seen it she goes on the tell me that she been out 3 days and that probably why. now when ever I walk into the store she hides from me. my husband say I'm overreacting and any ways she married, and the only reason she's hiding from me is because he told her we got into an arguement about her calling. I told him that was none of her business that was between me and him. He told that yes he did have to tell her that she should know!???? sorry It's so long but I needed to get this off my chest!!
HELP!! AM I OVERREACTING!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
Liz
