What do all you mean ups and downs?
Randy is giving me the mixed signals again and I am getting pretty upset and hurt over this! One minute he wants to call it quits and the next, save this "marriage"! The pit of emptyness and disbelief in my stomach will not go way! I don't get it! Why does he get to call the shots? He is the one that made this mistake! But my question is; "Does he really want to be with me"? I hope he isn't telling me on his once a week if that "I love you's", just out of pure guilt! God do I hate this other bleep'n ho bag! She gave him false love! She made me look like dog $*#! Why am I the one who gets Randy in pieces?
We did the questionnaire and we are so different in many aspects! I know this is suppose to be a
quide line to help and rekindle our needs! But he is not showing it and I don't think he wants it!
OUCH a thousand times over again! I am numb!
So where do I go from here? <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />
He is looking at jobs out of state and telling me he will not go unless I am there from the start! OK mixed signal! I HATE HIM! Why is he playing mind games with me? Does enjoy seeing me weep like this over him? Am I giving him some type of sick admiration????
Have any of you seen such a case like ours? Seriously, what should I do? I tried kicking him out! I can't stand to see him mope over hobag! He won't go! I can't leave because my son is at the hospital 2x's a week and in preschool! And he won't quit moping over hobag!!
My sister told me I should use some sort of reinforcement! Everytime he brings her name up or thinks about hobag (which is a lot more than he thinks about me), squirt him with a water gun! Should I give up? I am still very much in love with him and he questions why?, But i can't give up just like that! There is too much to loose here!
I need some help bad! <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />
Ali
By the way this is how cruel he is! Because the ho is in HR, we have papers regarding insurance for my hospital stay while in Texas, he looks at her writting! Should I leave???????
But first I have to make sure he gets an extremely high paying job and I'll take all of it! I am sick of being hurt! <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

<img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Ali,

This is my 2¢. Don't leave but kick him out from the house. Do tough love !. This A is mostly his fault and he know how to ammend you but unwilling. Tell him that until he is ready to treat you better, he could pack his stuff and go to OW. Opsh, sorry, even OW don't want his butt <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> . If Randy has not been here and has not read MB I would give you different suggestion.

You need to do this for you, not to punish him. Because if you stuck in the same place you will not as willing to take him back then we have a major problem.

-rh-