Ali,

I pray for you...you poor thing....you didn't deserve this, problems or not....this issue is HIS...he is the one that solves problems by pulling his pants down. Ugh...don't believe a word of "justification" he gets...

I'm bumping this one to the top. RandyR is back home, Y'all. He posted on his other thread - let's hope he takes some of this excellent advice to heart now and gets busy working on his Marriage.
I'm very glad that he has found a new job!!
Harold

Hi Dazed!

Thanks for your prayers!

I wouldn't call him a prevert! A selfish disconnected person yes! He is forgetting that he had a wife and family that loved him unconditionally. And yet, he only thought of his own needs.

Dazed I read up on some of your post! You must be in a lot of pain. I can totally relate to you and what you are going through.

You know the ironic thing of Randy's A., is that we always had lost respect for people who had affairs. We never saw anything good! I just remember a really pretty women who's husband worked with Randy. When Randy and this guy would go out of town on business Randy would tell me that her husband would go and get BJ's from women in bars. He would tell me that I would never have to worry! Actually, now I am second guessing! Maybe he did too!
The pain is unbearable. We all just got back from taking a drive and a long walk along the river, and I got a horrible mood swing. I just started thinking about that ugly thing he screwed. I just wanted to smack him!
OK here is a funny story! A professor told me this story when he went to Africa. Don't squirm now. But when a women went into labor, the tribe put a sting around the males private part and pulled it hard when she had a contraction. I would love to do that to Randy everytime I have a memory of those two together! The pain that he caused is so agonizing and so damn bothersum that I wish he would feel what I am feeling for five minutes. Not like that it is going to do much. The past is the past. But the memory keeps it very real in the future!
Anyway, talked enough.

Thanks,
Ali

Thanks Harold,

Wasn't that fun?

Thanks for bumping me to the top again!
I will have to get back with you, there is tons of screaming upstairs and not sure what the problem is. But thank! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />
Ali!
Hey my friend might be moving to Dallas. H. will be working for IBM as a consultant! Cool huh? He will be coming home on the weekends. Sound familar? Don't worry we will not be seeing my friend on this site!

Hi Ali! Yes, let's hope your friend in Dallas stays clean - there's a lot of temptation over there. Especially the 'West End' - I've visited there with my former girlfriend when I first came down here - it's a wild place. Not for me, though.
After we split, I never went back there. Granbury is a lot smaller and quieter than the MetroPlex.
My wife doesn't like Dallas that much either.
The string story was interesting. How about instead of putting a bitty string on the guy's private parts they just took a club and bashed him over the head once? Labor pains are no joke, at least from what I've been told. And the fun just gets started once you get the newborn darling little one home!
Then they turn into cocky teenagers who know everything and think you're the Village Idiot.
O the joys of parenthood!
(I'm not whining, just trying to put a little been there done that t-shirt thing into this!)
Hope your kids are OK and nothing was wrong.
Harold

AHHHHHHHHHHHH <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> I am having one of those nasty little triggers again! I need a mallot!
Help! Some one call the cops before I bash his head in! Serious love buster there?
Ya, well what about the huge LB to me when he decided to screw that ugly nasty little thing.

OK! What else can you all do for me? Except support and read my frustration? I am at the point where I feel I am sick of hearing the same thing about me! So should I stop posting? The triggers and his dwelling over her is not stopping. And I feel like I am spining my wheels here. I am stuck in the mud and Randy is the mud pile!
After reading Cerri's posting about Divorce, there is so much to consider. But I am feeling hatred for him!
Harold, Please find me that website! Before I kill Randy.
Here is the trigger that finished my mood!my neighbor's mother lives in the next subdivison over and she was riding her bike past our house and asked me if I was plan on moving to ugly McAllen. She goes down there with her husband every winter. I told her no without getting into details. Then we talked about the area and she asked if I got over to Progresso! I felt my heart pulputate! No but we were supposed to go so I can find my glassware. He and that ugly scanky whore B*tch went there. The memory of him telling me that she was all over him and making out in the streets and in the stores. How invading!
I need an outlet and Randy is just to close right now!

<img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> mad: RRRRRRrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr!
We need a Hulk smiley!
"Don't make me angry. You won't like me when I am angry" OK just venting!
Revenge??? Oh yeah, I want revenge, but on Randy!
Do you think it will come full circle what he did to me??? I mean on this earth?
later you Y'all
Ali Rrrrrrr <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

LOL ... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> vent here and hang in there Ali88. You know you could drive on the highway and scream as loud as you can .... you could take a pillow and start hitting them ... Yes, I did it <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" /> . It is better than Marllot or Asti Supermante <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> . We need an outlet ... just a healty one. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> . -rh-

Hi Redhat! I'v missed ya! How have you been?

By the way, I had purchased some Two Buck Chuck at Trader Joes. Heard it was supposed to be one of the best wines around! And for only $2.99? How can you go wrong! But you know it is still unopened! Go figure! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Hope to see you around!
Ali - A little bit calmer but not much! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" />

Hi Ali! Sorry you're having a trigger day - they really SUCK. My memory isn't what it used to be <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> (and neither is the Old Grey Mare) but anyway, please refresh me (hit the F5 key) on what website it is. I use 3 different search engines and can pretty much find quick what I'm looking for...
I use Google, Mamma and Yahoo searches...
Harold

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Ali88:
<strong>Hi Redhat! I'v missed ya! How have you been?
</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I am doing great ... I am at a trendy coffe shop that offer a free wireless. I am working since all I need is Internet Connection & I get pay by the hours. I do people watching ...it is "hot" 75F here and many dresses down to drive my libido up <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> . I lurks at MB to distract my eyes <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> . LOL !.

-rh-

By the way, if any of you think Randy and I are like to ships passing in the night? You are right!

I am having a counselor come to our house finally tomorrow! Yeah! I had mentioned this to Randy a while back ago! His mind was else where!

It just shows you all how well the man listens to me. But of course I could be telling him at the wrong time. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

It took a while because of paper work, she was on vacation, yadda, yadda, yadda! So it finally starts!

Please, one more thing! I am not Randy's flunky! So disregard anything Randy says that includes me into his negetivity about revenge! I explained to him the revenge I would like could never happen unless I have magic powers! My revenge would be like naive's (by the way, where are you?)
to have my husband fall hopelessly in love with me again and have that slut totally off of his mind forever! Will that happen? Ummm, doubt it!
At this point I feel that I am very much a convenience for him! I am totally disconnected from him!
nuff said must clean again! I hate mopping! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />
Ali

Hey Ali, you might receive some help in 'The Kingdom Of Caerlon' - I think we have a fairy and a magician around somewhere..
You're definitely on the right track with that Counselor!
My continuing prayers and wishes for your TOTAL Recovery!!!
Harold

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Ali88:
<strong>" ... to have my husband fall hopelessly in love with me again and have that slut totally off of his mind forever! Will that happen? Ummm, doubt it! ... </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Ali ... Ali ... that A is his monkey on his back to get rid off, you own nothing of it. Let him resolve it, it is beyond your control. Right now Randy is not capable to be "in-love" w/ you since he still has that monkey. He has to let you and receptive to your 4 gifts of love. Until then recovery is slow as a snail.

Goodluck w/ MC
-rh-