I have been married to my H for 3 years, May 24. I just learned that my H slept with OW around November 01. H said it was one time, OW said it was twice, most recently 4/12/03. I am not sure how to procede from this point. He claims it was a one time mistak, that has not repeated itself and he is truly sorry. We have a 2 1/2 yr old Daughter. I have been having nightmares since I found out. OW said does not want anything to do with my H, and my H said he does not want anything to do with OW, wants to work on M and restore my trust...Not sure if I can ever trust him,or anything that comes out of his mouth. My H has aleays been loving and affectionate towars me, I would never have suspected him capable of such behavior; he does everything and anything for me, still does. But I do not view him as the same man I married, I am constantly questioning/doubting myself. Let me say this, we were going thru a rough patch at the time of OW, I was not sexually attracted to him, and used every excuse I could to avoid him intimately, although we never went more then 3 days per week w/o it(H always the initiator). Since finding out, I have been more loving and active with him, yet the thought continues to hunt me. Please advice.

I am 27, H's 28
D 2 1/2
M 5/24/00

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