Married 34 years- married in 1968.
Here is my story as brief as possible:
In '69,my H called my friend and asked to come over, and she said no. Then she called me that night and told me. H said he made a mistake in calling her(Thought he was calling his friend and realized it was my friend and asked for just to come over for coffee). I thought that then, In '70 he received oral sex from a prostitute during work.(H a policeman). He said he was with an older guy and he started it by picking up this prostitute and my H (only25 at time) felt he too because this is what the guys did. Only time with prostitute. Then in 72 called another friend and went over but neither of then mentioned sex or did anything. He had this on his mind, but she had nothing of the sort. He didn't ask, so he had coffee and left.
Now we come to '76. He met this girl Marcia sitting in her car at the park one night(H worked 5 to 1am) asked her if she wanted to go for a ride and she said yes. H recieved a hand job from her. This happened on three occassions with the same girl, same place, except the third time she wanted intercourse and he said no. Then he saw her another time, but she was involved with another guy, he asked for sex she said no. Final time he saw her she told him to leave her be.
After the last girl also in 76 he was introduced to a girl Charmaine known to service policeman and he asked her to go for a ride, and they parked and he received oral sex again. Next time he saw her she asked to go to a hotel and he did, but when it came to intercourse--everything went limp on him and they left with the girl being angry. Never seen her again.
All these girls in 76 he never planned a metting with. Mostly ran into them(they hung around the police station).
Between 72 and 77 H also was bisexual. After Last girl he says he never was with a guy or girl again. He says he learned he could no longer live this double life. He changed jobs within the police dept. and no longer worked these late hours in 80 when our son was born. He was always home with me on days off, never hardly worked overtime, we went everywhere together, camping fishing,etc. He did all this since we were married. He says he always loved me, and I believe this, and believe there was no love between the girls he was with. I think he had a problem probably with sex and I know he never thought he was good looking etc.
He always was the perfect husband and father, and I still love him. The trouble was when I found this out 5 months ONLY ago, I did not find all the truth out til now. He lied he said to keep from hurting me more. I feel I have all the info and details out now.
Should I trust him and forgive him. He lied about all his sex doings for 5 months. I found out a little about the cheating from a friend and he kept denying it piece by piece till I feel I have most of the details and all the truth now. What should I do////HELP???????
