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I had to logon to MB and tell you all I am feeling depressed, why when I know what I have to do which I haven't done yet, do I feel depressed. My H can tell something is wrong with me. I keep thinking of OM, I wish I would stop thinking of him. I avoided him yesterday also and he knows something is up. Why did I let this happen? WHY!! WHY!! I just want to cry but I can't.
You all have been a really great support group, I now have to read the postings from the forum everyday. I am still learning everyone's login name. Please, Don't give up on me, I really need help to get through this.
<small>[ May 08, 2003, 06:49 AM: Message edited by: s888 ]</small>
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you are on an emotional rollercoaster. Over time the hills and drops will slowly start to become less pronounced.
You are doing/going to do something really hard. I am sure that part of you doesn't want to do this (I am assuming NC). Once you've mad that commitment it doesn't really get easier you just have that to stand on. A solid foundation for your new beginning.
You H probably knows something is wrong. For me, I wanted to know the feelings my lovely wife was experiencing but she didn't want to share them with me. She knew it would hurt me and didn't want to hurt me more. I guarantee the thoughts I thought she was thinking were far worse than what was actually going on in her head.
Do the NC. Don't beat yourself up either. That won't solve anything.
God bless
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What you are feeling is very natural. You are still addicted to the OM like a person who is an addict to alcohol or drugs and regrets ever having become one. You have a tough battle on your hands, but take comfort in the fact that you are actually trying your best to beat the addiction to the OM. It's going to take weeks or perhaps months before the OM is out of your system, and avoiding as much as you can, all contact with OM is key to your marital and personal recovery.
As always, you are not alone for we are here for you and your H.
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Hi
I am not sue exactly what you are addicted too??
You have to go into MC! Not only do you need it but you H. as well!
Tell this OM what a jerk he is and you are sorry you fell for his bate! You have to get your En's met by your H. not buy this loser! I feel so sorry for OM's wife! You should send him this website to him and tell him to work on his own issues with his W. Think about what you might be doing to her??? I am sure you will be replaced quickly if you continue not to see him!
Get mad! Look at him for what he is! JERK, JERK & JERK!
You are confused because this guy bated you. He could care less about you! Think about that and start focusing on your M! GO TO MC RIGHT AWAY!
Ali
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