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Wish I had this years ago......
#428583 05/10/03 02:19 AM
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I have read many of the posts here and this book may help those who are the betrayers understand us, the betrayed, and to heal the relationship rather than make it worse.
If anyone has read this book please reply & tell me your take on it.

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Can you tell some of the strong points it makes. I never read it but sure it would help a lot of people. New info. is good.
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After the Affair, by Janis A. Spring was the first book I read after discovering my H's affair.
I highly recommend it - for both parties - to read.
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I am sorry I need to clarify, the SITE name is After the Affair. The BOOK is titled "How to Gain Forgiveness & Respect After Your Affair" It is written for the WS and is kind of rough on them. The betrayed spouse is not supposed to read it. (I read it though) and gives them steps on how to behave after the affair. IT helps them to understand how we feel and act the way we do. It highlights POSITIVE behavior, and how to create and mangage that behavior. It teaches the WS to take responsibility for thier actions. Mostly to stop whining and realize it was their mistake. I got my copy for free, however there is small download fee now.
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This book is called "Infidelity Crisis: How to Gain Forgiveness and Respect After Your Affair" and the web site its www.aftertheaffair.net The site name is a little confusing in regards to the book "After The Affair" but the .com equivelent isn't for Spring's book either.

This book was written for the WS--but I don't think it's "rough" on them. I thought she was very kind and respectful. However, the book is blunt and eye-opening--a real reality check for the WS who wants to play the victim. I've read the book and some reviews about it on other boards--and I think it might be the best book available to help the WS understand how we feel--why we feel like we do--and how they can help us to forgive them. I've downloaded a few e-books that dissapointed me--but this is a really, really good book--unconventional, but right on target.
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#428588 05/13/03 12:21 AM
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PS--

Mojo--

After you read this book, didn't you feel just like you knew the author personally? I really liked the story she told about her dad. What was your favorite part of the book?

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