Hello. I'm actually not new to the MB site. I've changed my name for this post. Realizing this is a holiday weekend, all responses will be greatly appreciated.

I've been suspecting dh was having an EA. Dh was off Friday and we stopped by his workplace. As we were walking out his co-worker(female in question) was walking inside. She talked to dh and never acknowledged me period. She kept eye-contact with my dh. They laughed and carried on like I wasn't there. After a very brief conversation she told him bye and went inside. Still never spoke to me even though I did say "goodbye" to her. She never even looked at me. Completely ignored me. Now this incident adds to the other little things that make me suspect them.

Am I right to be concerned or am I overeacting. Because I'm more suspecious than before. *sigh* Just felt like a doormat! Thanks again!

Ali and Randy say, "Bust him now!".

There is something going on...most definetly.

Most womens instict is correct.

Thanks for repling. My dh acts like this is no big deal and refuses to talk to me about it. (He's an introvert.) I'm afraid to say too much to him about it. PLUS, I don't want him to go telling her I said anything.

Thanks....

just bumping and hoping for another reply....

Hi Hinkle,

Your DH could be having an EA with this OW... or not.

Regardless, your DH was very disrespectful to you to not at least introduce you since you were there with him.

You might want to let your DH know that you felt "left out" and that his actions hurt you.

Have you asked your DH if he is having an EA with this OW?

Semper Fi,
RIF90

RIF90....Actually I have met her before. Seen her on several occasions. The last few times I've encountered her she completely ignores me.

I did speak to my dh about EA's in general. He laughed and asked me if I had been watching too much Dr. Phil. He said there is no such thing as an EA. According to him it's only an A if it's a PA. Hmm did that make any sense?

Thanks for your reply.....

Hinkle,

Hmmmmmm, I smell more than the proverbial rat!

Tread warily and find incontrovertible proof before accusing. Questioning or discussing in a calm way is OK, but getting a "confession" will be difficult.

Your gut tells you things are not right. The gut-detector is mostly true, but be careful! WSs will normally deny, lie, become angry, accuse you of invading their privacy, anything but confirm you suspicions. When faced with evidence they will begrudgingly admit to minor indiscretions, have amazing explanations, lie even more, etc.

Best of luck and God Bless

SB

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial"> ...He laughed and asked me if I had been watching too much Dr. Phil. He said there is no such thing as an EA. According to him it's only an A if it's a PA. </font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">So I guess your DH wouldn't mind if YOU had a good male friend that you spoke with constantly, went out to dinner... anything but SEX... then your DH wouldn't consider that an A... <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

I have to agree with the last post that something doesn't smell quite right...

Semper Fi,
RIF90

Well I have been checking out his cell phone. I've seen her cell number is programmed in there. Which probably isn't a big deal. But, recently he's been deleting phone numbers. Called & received logs. Since I have no access to the bill (He takes it unopened and directly to work to be paid) I have no proof of how many calls were made and from her. A couple of weeks ago I stopped by his work. While he was out of his office, I looked at his e-mails and saw a few from her. Just work e-mails with "cutsie" messages attached.

They have went to lunch together EVERY single day this week, alone. Even though I asked him to meet me somewhere for lunch. He said he didn't have time too today. I just don't know how to approach him about this issue. He's the type to clam up on me. I have mentioned to him others (coworkers) might start to talk about how close they have become. He just rolled his eyes. I wasn't confrontational with the comment. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

My "gut feeling" tells me something is just not right. I'm sure it is an EA and not a PA. I've been reading the MB site for six or seven months. I've really tried to be my absolute best for him. I just feel like there has to be something I must be doing wrong. If I only knew maybe I could change it. <img border="0" alt="[Teary]" title="" src="graemlins/teary.gif" />

Thanks for the replies & allowing me to vent.

This is my first time on this website. I just found out that my husband of 8 years has been having an affair with an old friend that contacted him 8 weeks ago. He told me 2 weeks ago that he had been seeing someone else for about 6 weeks and that it was over, he loved me and was really sorry that it had ever happened, he told me because he wanted to have a clear head and fall deeper in love with me. The funny thing is, is that her husband called me that same day to tell me of the affair. He had all their phone records and when they had talked as well as all their emails. It made me just sick to my stomach. Well I know that it is over between them however, I am just angry about the whole thing, I do still love him I never stopped but I just don't know how to proceed with our relationship if I cannot trust him. Any advice would be so helpful. Thanks

Have either of you read the book Torn Asunder by Dave Carder? If not, get a copy and see if your H will read it with you...

Semper Fi,
RIF90

kmg...I would suggest you start a seperate thread. You post is buried in this thread and might not get replied too. I'm sure you will receive more replies by starting your own seperate thread. I wish you well.

Thanks RIF90.....I will check into that book. Thanks again for all the replies.