Well we got the results from oc paternity tests friday. H is the father. 99.96% positive.
I am heart broken. OC was born 8/02. H has had no contact with OC. What should we do now? Should we continue with no contact or should he "be a father to her".
We had 3 children- 17,13,7
She had 2 children from divorced husband
OW is now supposedly engaged and pregnant with fiances child. Her fiance was seeing her before the birth of OC and loves her as his own. My H wants OC in as normal lifestyle as possible with a mother and father. OW's Fiance wants OC to have HIS last name, but OW is afraid for him to adopt her "just in case the marriage doesn't WORK out".
I'm sure she really just wans OUR money.
What do we do now? Do we tell our children and families about OC and have a relationship with her at the risk hurting our families (especially our children) over what H did, or should we just pay child support and continue to have no contact. H name is on birth certificate. I'm sure OC will find out one day that he is father and will possibly contact us. Should we tell our kids now or wait and see what happens.
I have forgiven H & OW, but finding out H definately is the F has really cut into those old wounds. I'm finding myself somewhat bitter. I had prayed and prayed and prayed that he would'nt be the F and I feel hurt and rejected by God for not answering my prayer the way I wanted him to. I know he has a reason for everything and will help me to get through this, but I still feel terribly hurt.
Pray for me that God will help me to get past the pain and learn to accept his decision.
Any advice on what to do as far as contact/no contact, especially from BS would be greatly appreciated.
