Hi mkn,<BR>as you can tell, I tend to come here less and less. I can't say I am over my ex, and still wish we were together. I have to remind myself that it has only been 6 months since our divorce was finalized. I emailed him recently to tell him about my qual results. All contact (except one) has been initiated by me. He replied back to my last e-mail and congratulated me, told me he hoped I'd forgiven myself and that someday I'd find someone who would love me for just being me. Well that pissed me off big time. I thanked him for writing me back and for his kind words, but also told him that he was the one who was supposed to "love me for just being me" and that I thought it was pretty crappy for him to tell me to forgive myself when he couldn't do that himself. <P>Good news is that I just got back from a trip to Europe with a school friend of mine (female). Stayed in Paris by myself for about 5 days, and the rest were spent in Germany with my friend. After I get the pics back, I think I'll post a few for you folks to look at. <P>Anyway, enough about me. You say you are having a terrible time seeing your W because you have a son. I can only imagine how hard it must be for you, especially because you need to be brave for your son. No matter what the other spouse has done, I beleive that talking down the other person can only hurt and confuse the children. When they are older, they are usually able to see the real truth and put things into perspective. However, I can definately understand how hard it might be to keep those angry feelings about your wife from showing. Even though it really hurts right now, the pain will get less and less. I'm convinced the chances of reconciliation are higher whenever people have children together, although I know it hurts to keep holding onto hope. <P>She hasn't filed yet, so there is still hope. I don't come here often enough to keep up with everyone's progress, sorry to say. Has she given up the OM? Does she say why she hasn't filed?
