(I posted this in the "in recovery" section and then realized that you usually hang out over here!)
Dear John,
I wanted to thank you personally for the reply that you posted when I first started to frequent MB just weeks after my H uncovered his numerous infidelities. That was a very dark time for me. As a Christian woman, I felt that I had somehow failed or maybe was somehow defective at my very core. I quickly realized that this was not true of course and that the choices he had made truly reflected on his own shortcomings as an individual.
I wanted to report that we have come so very far! He is getting the help that he needs and has grown into a wonderful man. He is no longer trying to emotionally medicate his hidden depression, but is facing it head on. He is no longer acting out as a pained adolescent. He is becoming the husband that I always knew he could be.
With these things in place, I have had the opportunity to bloom as a wife. I am still processing all of the emotions involved in this madness of finding out that my H had been acting out for years. At the same time, I am at peace, knowing that he is finally making the necessary changes for us to grow old together.
Thanks again, for that early encouragement. We have quite the library of books now, including all of those that you recommended! We'll have to move them to a less conspicuous place soon because our granddaughter is about to learn to read!
Take care!
Stillwed
