Please list your Opinion:

Lets say a spouse has just found out that the other spouse was having an A and that spouse does not want to give up seeing the OP. Should you plan A or go to plan B?

In my marriage, my wife was the WS. Dealing with this for 3 years, seeing several counselors and doing alot or reading, my opinion would be to go to plan B immediately. When the WS is having an A, even if you are perfect, that spouse is degrading you and purposely finding fault with you to try to justify the A they are having. After a period of time, the WS would be able to justify leaving the marriage fulling believing that you are cause of the bad marriage. If you go strait to plan B, your spouse may still be dependent enough to truly miss you and snap out of the fog. Do you think this approach would be different if the WS was the Man?

Just to let you know, we have been in recovery almost 2 years and everything is great.

It depends on how many of the emotional needs the BS is meeting. In my case, I am sure a direct Plan B would have been effective, assuming my wife did not commit suicide, because while I was not doing a good job with her top two EN's (was practically oblivious to them, in fact), I was doing a good job with EN's 3-9, and she never wanted to marry the OM. For someone really in love with the OP, and/or whose spouse has been very neglectful or abusive, then a Plan A is almost imperative, so that they have a reason to miss their spouse. Just understand that the Plan A will not necessarily seem effective, for the reasons you mention, as well as the fact that the WS's attention is focused elsewhere. So, you can't judge the effectiveness of a Plan A by the WS's reaction at the time. They do notice, though, and they do remember.

I agree completely with your logic.