I just found out that my H is having affair and has been for several months. He is now living with her, but comes down to visit our two wonderful boys a couple of times a week, but when he comes over he is loving and caring and still wants to have sex with me. I ask why and he tells me that he still loves me but he's not in love with me.
I'm so confused when he is here it's like everything is GREAT then he call on the phone and start demanding that the boys come up there and meet the OW.I just can't let my children be around her right now when I'm hoping he will wise up and come home. Besides she has a son and I was told that he hardly comes around .so if her child doesn't want to be around her why should mine.so
I just keep asking for more time it's only been 2 months and I really want him to wake up and realize that that 14yrs were good and we can make it through this if he would just try

I'm sorry you have to go through this. It sounds like your H wants to be a cake-eater, to have the best of both worlds without the responsibility. You stand firm. You're thinking about what's best for you and your children. Keep reading here. There are people here who can help.

Just to let you know, we do care.

Stay strong.

Having a really hard time being strong. I went out with friends tonight and he called and went crazy. I won't let him take the kids up there to meet her and spend time with them .but I'm out partying and dumping them on a baby-sitter what kind of mother am I. I just can't take the yelling anymore and being told that I 'm a lier.All I want is for him to come home.