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Joined: May 2003
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I was posting in the EN list but things have changed.
My W forced me to leave in Feb. I struggled to reason why, then I found the MB site (way too late) and I know why, how I failed to meet her needs.
But...
I have asked twice if she was or had a affair she said no.
Many of her stories about trips away and medical procedures have been lies.
The phone bills crunched it.
The biggie is she invited me round for dinner for my B'Day with some friends. We had a great dinner till the friends left and she asked me to leave as well saying she was tired after an operation. I left at 9:30. The phone record showed that as soon as I left she called this man and spoke for over an hour.
The evidence and lies have piled too high now.
I don't know that she knows I know yet (wow).
Do I need to let her know that I know, do I confront her her in a letter?
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Joined: Aug 2000
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I am sorry but nobody can force you to leave your own home. I would suggest that you move back immediately and inform her that you know of her affair and she is the one that needs to move out as long as she continue contact with her OM. She has an affair and you are forced to leave your home? What is wrong with this picture?
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Joined: Mar 2002
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I agree. Why should you, the betrayed one, leave the comfort of your own home, in a time where you are going through a lot of hurt and pain?? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
(Also...I don't know too much about the law...but if you leave the home, it is possible she could get you for 'abandonment' later on...don't let her do this...if she wants to separate, she should be the one to leave the home.)
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You have a point. I should have not moved out.
I have the opportunity to move back in this weekend. She is taking the kids to see her mother.
But if I move back in it will get very ugly. She will most likely move out and propably take the kids with her. If she leaves the kids then I have the problem of school hours and work hours. Kids are 6, 8 and 10. And I don't have the family support her to do both.
This idea has merits, it forces the responsibility back on to her.
I intend to ask her for the truth, if she will not talk I have a letter outlining it all.
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