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Ok.. new poster and one response told me to be more descriptive of my situation.. so.. married 7 yrs. with one daughter 17 from my previous marriage, found out about the affair 4 wks ago, doesn't love me 2 wks ago (when I first posted in deperation)...He has ended the affair, stopped contact, going to counseling with me.. all sounds good but..
Tonight, he is out for his biweekly handball game.. each week since I've know him he has played handball with dinner with the guys.. home about this time...
Usually this has been a time for my daughter and me to connect.. but she is now 17 and had asked if she could break our date and hang out with some new friends swimming..What is a mother to say but Sure!!!
So, I am home feeling pity for myself (stupid I know).. and wondering why he hasn't called and isn't home... also, although he has made steps to stay in this marriage, he is far from committed... I feel like I'm the one making most of the accomodations... trying to let him be him...
I want to leave and end my pain...What do I do??
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Hey SF... I know the feeling of having your spouse tell you they are longer in love with you. That is difficult alone, much less the doubting of where your spouse is and what they may be up to. I've been going thru a similar situation, although we've been seperated since 9/02. I can suggest using time like this to read and learn about what you can do to change YOU. First and foremost, I think this helps with understanding the situation, what we can do to change us, and then work on the relationship. I'll say a prayer for you- read the material on this site- Thre's quite a bit and it's helping me constantly!
Me- BS m 11y
2 kids b9/ g7
dday 9/02
seperated and learning and hoping
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People will say alot of hurtful things during an argument, but "I do not love you" is the worst one, because this one is a true feeling. You may call someone names and all, but if you say I dont love you......that is usually a true feeling. Its hard to know or believe if the wayward person will ever come around again. When I heard those words from my EX, it was like someone jabbed a butcher knife in my heart. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />
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