Hi, I believe my H is not having a very nice behaviour, yesterday he went out turning back at 2 a.m. in the morning, he was supposed to be with his clients. I found out that his underwear has some hard parts as it if was dry semen, it went through his trousers, is it normal for men to leave this hints without some stimulation? Please be honest, he has been unfaithful to me once and I wouldn't like to be a fool again

No it isn't normal IMO

Before you start drawing conclusions, understand that MANY men masturbate behind their wive's back and leave traces of their dried semen on their underwear, BUT the fact that your H(husband) has been unfaithful before and he didn't come home until 2 am does raise a big red flag IMNSHO. If he truly cares about you and his M(marriage) then this kind of behavior is totally unacceptable. You should express this to him in calm (no yelling, screaming, accusatory remarks, etc.) and reasonable (if the roles had been reversed, would he think that it was ok?) fashion.

Dear toomuchcoffeeman, I didn't get the point of the dry semen, is it normal or not, it is a\bout half inch or may be one inch

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Mia71:
Dear toomuchcoffeeman, I didn't get the point of the dry semen, is it normal or not, it is a\bout half inch or may be one inch</font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I'm sorry for confusing you, but my point was that in other circumstances, the appearance of dry semen on a man's underwear may mean that he is masturbating behind his wife's back, BUT in the case of your H(husband), with his history of infidelity and coming home at 2 am, I doubt that this is the case and I highly suspect that he may have had sex with another woman.

I am shocked, please tell me how to confront him, I am sure he will say that I am crazy or that he doesn't know how this spot is there, how can I know the truth? Please tell me how can I get the truth from him, I believe he will not tell me easily because he knows how much he hurt me last time and we have 1 month newborn and a 5 year old kid. Please help me

please help me out of this one, how can i confront him and know the truth, I think he will die before telling me he was unfaithful again, how can I let him with no way out

He was up to no good. Why would your H whack off somewhere else at 2am. Dried semen in your underware is NOT normal. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

I live in Mexico city, he is a stock brocker, to be out at 2 a.m. in this city and with this work is very normal, but yesterday night something smelt real bad to me, he drinks a lot and yesterday he didn't look like drinking, he called me at 6 p.m. and didn't call again. But the most important thing is what i believe is dry semen and this is where I should start talking to him and get the truth, but i don't know how

I wouldn't get obsessed with the small 1/2 inch semen stain on his underwear and instead I would recommend that you sit down with him and calmly bring up the subject of his going out and not coming home until 2 am. Ask him, if the roles were reversed, would he like the idea of you coming home at that hour in the morning. Chances are he'll admit that he wouldn't like it one bit. Ask him to please go with you to marital counseling to save the M(marriage) before its too late.

Show it to him and ask him what kind of stain is this so you know what to use to get it out???

Rofl he probably will tell you "It's not mine" someone else was wearing my pants at that time.

no seriously I doubt he is going to admit it.

when I had a new born I took my husband to the home of the girl he had been having sex with and
here's what he said..when she opened the door,
"tell my wife that I have not been having sex with you." so she did tell me she was not having sex with him..and he had told her that in a threatning tone..

No I didn't believe him and it was not the first time either.and I did stay with him for a long time with many miserable times and some good times but mostly did not trust him at all.

because I did not trust him in order not to have him badgering me as he started on me..if I even went to the corner store..oh I use to ask permission to do anything...to have money...to go to the store...etc..

he went and came as he wanted..

oh I use to take one of the kids every where I went so that he would not think I am running around on him..I didn't anyway, I loved him
but I wanted away from him only back then in the 60' and 70's when the kids were young isn't like now..

anyway ask him but he will lie..mine lied so much bold face lies I would even find evidence in my car in 1964 we had a sleek grand prix and I found a womens cigerette lighter real expensive one..he thought quick and told me it must belong to the mechanic..I ASKED WHAT MECHANIC>>>>? so I could return it..he forgot.
some people are just born liars. there is a scripture somewhere that says that from the womb they are liars..

I hope the best for you but mostly I wanted to tell you not to have sex with him till you do know for sure so you protect yourself..
yuk..the thought of them being with somoene else makes me sick...

mine can't do that anymore he is dead now..so I don't have to worry anymore but you don't need to worry any more either tell him to straighten up or ship out..what mine always said if I didn't do what he wanted me to..shurg. then stick to it.
Keep on Keeping on..(hope this made sense I always end up saying more then I want..) <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" />