I posted a topic regarding I found dry semen on my H's underwear and pants. I didn't know if this was normal (Women's is normal) I now know that it in men is not normal. Because he has been unfaithful to me once, I think he did it again, but I need to confront him with this facts and geting the truth out of him, how can I do this and make sure he says the truth?

does he frequent strip clubs or porno movies at night with his friends?

you can do like I mentioned in your other string

ok here's what you do...walk in holding his pants in one hand and with a bottle of stain remover
and say I was going to use this but not sure what is this stain so I can use the right product???

like I said he will say it is not his...someone else wore his pants...

well thats what they say about drugs or things found in their pockets it belongs to someone else..

but you do need to not have sex with him till you know for sure.

make sure it isn't from an std...
and women do not all have stains on their panties unless they have something wrong..

do you think he took a nap before leaving and may have had a nocturnal dream before he left?

I feel bad for you it is the time my husband messed around then when I first started having children. he was still in the navy and over seas alot...virgin islands all those fun places I had no idea of the girls there that I would hear about later and beach parties the ships had..
oh the heartache thinking about all that..

I hope this stuff will be resolved for you soon.
but please don't make yourself sick over it he is definetly not worth it..ok..I know you hate what he is doing but pray for God to change him, you cannot do it.

I ain''t got a clue what it takes for them to change..If we did we could get rich.
They need to think with the head on their shoulders and not the one between their legs..
God bless you...IT"S ALL LUST!!!

I made mistake and confronted him right away
so - don't!
wait and watch - his behaviour, when he goes out (private investigator?)
because he won't say truth (just my guess)
so, be patient and investigate a bit...

well, when I confronted my H he said it isn't sperm but urin
like I doon't know what the stain of sperm is <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
then I insisted on answer, and he said - every man has erection and it comes out little, if he had more of them - bigger the stain <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />
so, I asked him how come he had erection (was out "just had supper" with a woman <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ); he answered - that erection is not because of sex-desire, but just it happens as normal LL THE TIME <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

if it isn't so painful, would be very comic

so who is the women he had super with?
you agree it is ok for him to have super with someone he gets an erection being around?

HE must think you are an idiot. men do not get erections by just being around other women,
shish..otherwise they would all be hiding behind a book or something.

something is fishy.. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Frown]" src="images/icons/frown.gif" />

I still think she needs to let him know about the stain that she knows because I believe if she plays stupid with the stain...and he says its something else then its her choice to pretend to accept the answer clean it and then watch him closer from now on..she knows it is semen.. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Eek!]" src="images/icons/shocked.gif" />

Dontcha??? know its semen?
take care Keep on keeping on!

Originally posted by Guernica:
...so, I asked him how come he had erection (was out "just had supper" with a woman <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> ); he answered - that erection is not because of sex-desire, but just it happens as normal LL THE TIME <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />


"ALL THE TIME"????

Hmmmm.... get that WS some depends. Why? Because it ALL DEPENDS! Now ask him if he believes that line. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" />

L.

Orchid
your too funny!
but honestly how gullible are some people?

I wonder if this person will be back or post her own string..

I still think you need to ask him about the stain and see what he says..
he should probably wear a lil thing for his penis they have those things so the last drops go in their underware they are called convens lil covers for them REALLY and then he will keep pants clean. you can get them in the grocery dept near the diapers and kotex stuff. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I don't know who is that woman he had supper with (he doesn't remember <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> , met her just that night <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> )
but it was reason I left him
and after 6 weeks came back to our house because he was begging me...

of course I don't believe him
wrote this just to show what their answers could be - incredible
they really underestimate our intelligence + I guess they are lost trying to excuse themselves and speak lies nobody would take them

I wish I din't confront him that night (morning)
because he never told (admit) anything
and I have no other proofs
noe I think he is more careful of hidding... although he said no way he had any ow
I wish I'd trust him

That type of promiscuous behavior can bring home deadly disease to the spouse...and everyone else he has contact with. XXdangerXX