Things are good here on the homefront. We are moving past this and not looking back. We learn from our mistakes and also how to forgive. That's needed to get past this.

<small>[ July 09, 2003, 10:06 PM: Message edited by: southofdixie321 ]</small>

Dixie,
You are not "sick" to want to know the details of your husband's sexual encounters and emotional involvement with another woman. He is resorting to angry tactics to keep you out of an embarrassing area of his life, but his embarrrassment should not supercede your need to know and heal. He needs to tear down the wall of secrecy around the affair and his sex life and include you in it. You would benefit from reading all you can on this site, so that you can begin to have true intimacy in your conversations with your husband--radical honesty about everything is the only way to go. He will need lots of re-educating and if he is like a lot of wayward spouses, the weight of recovery will fall on your shoulders. He wants to bury and forget it but that is NOT healthy for you or for Him. You have your work cut out for you, but it will be worth it in the end. Don't be discouraged. I feel for you dear.