We have been trying to relocate for 2 yrs and H finally got a job. (states away)<BR>They want him there in less than a month. THe thing is he has to attend a school for 4 months and while in this school he gets paid an extremely LOW amount. It is quite expensive to live in the area too.<BR> SO H keeps talking about my staying here while he goes. Allot of people have said this is a bad idea. <BR>What does everyone think? I feel like if I don't go then it might as well be goodbye. He feels like ahhhh it will all be ok. H is being so loving like he is just dying to get out there on his own. Should I go no matter how bad the circumstanses look. I just don't know. I have a hard time trusting him now after what he has done. How will I feel with him 1500 mls away for 4 months. Please give me some advice on this one I am stumped<P>------------------<BR>God is our refuge and STRENGTH,<BR>A very Present help in trouble.<BR>Psalm 46:1<BR>I sought the Lord and he heard me, <BR>and delivered me from all my fears.<BR>Psalms 34:4<P>

Do you HONESTLY have a choice?<P>If you do, GO!<P>That's my advice...<P>~Sheryl

If you want your marriage to succeed I think you should go.<A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi3900_rules.html" TARGET=_blank>The Four Rules for a Successful Marriage</A>Hopefully these will help you and H make a decision.<P>Bill<P><P>------------------<BR>BB<BR>

*SecretuvmyStrength*,<P>If you value the recovery of your marriage... If he too values it...<P>You've got to go!!! <P>What an intimate statement you'll be making!<P>Prayers... <P>Jim<BR>---------------------------------<BR>Where two or more are gathered...

See I want to go. I have wanted to move for 5 yrs. But what should I do when it really looks as though there is no way for me to go due to money and availability of somewhere to live. Do I just insist and then end up the 4 of us crammed in a 2 bedroom apt. with nothing? THis is really so hard. Cause I get the strong impression he wants me to stay here. But he tells me it is only so we can save money to buy a house. I don't buy it.!!<BR> <P>------------------<BR>God is our refuge and STRENGTH,<BR>A very Present help in trouble.<BR>Psalm 46:1<BR>I sought the Lord and he heard me, <BR>and delivered me from all my fears.<BR>Psalms 34:4<P>

go with him. for four months, its really just an adventure...like camping. you'll have to depend on each other.<BR>i know what you mean about them seeming so happy to get "out"...i packed up my H to go "scuba diving", and i swear ive never seen him so happy. of course, he had NO PROOF when he got home. oh well.<BR>good luck.

Maybe a little research will find for you a little better place a few miles out of this "expensive place"...<P>Age of kids... obviously... important too!<P>This <B>is</B> a hard one....<P>Marriage Building... vs ...small apartment<BR>long term........... vs ...short term<BR>distance............ vs ...closeness<P>There are different ways of looking at things...<P>Still praying for hard decisions... <P>Jim

I can only say is that paying for two places is more cost than one but if he just needs to go for sanity sake than he must. Send him off with love and tell h you will miss h, ask him to call/communicate somehow. Sometimes we need time to ourselves even though its tough. The marriage will survive if it will,but only as you make it important. Maybe this is like "seek and you will find", coming back to a better way. Look for a way to make it great again for what you truely want. GBY

Maybe he needs the space, but ........<P>I would go. That's a long time and a long way away. If you can, if it won't make him unhappy, then go.<P>Tough decision. Wishing you luck.<P>Lori