A thank the people who responded to my initial post on this topic on June 5.
I have not yet talked to my husband because I want to make sure that i cool down and don't make decisions based on my emotions. I don't know the details of my husband’s affair, I only know that he has been treated for a sexually transmitted disease.
Meanwhile, I read Dr. Harley's basic concepts and talked to my friend who survived her husband's multiple infidelities. She finally divorced him.
She told me something that I also found in Dr. Harley's basic concepts. That is: “..Many affairs can be one-night-stand where the spouse had sex only once with someone who happens to be available..”

Is this true for guys only? I can’t even imagine going to bed with someone I hardly know. I have to love this person.