The relationship I had with my exhusband started disintegrating about a year ago when my inlaws came to live with us for 3,5 months. I always felt that my exH did not care for me as much as his parents but this became very obvious last summer. My exFIL tried to hit me in December and my exH held him down and blamed me for making exFIL mad. I filed for divorce in January and it became final 6/5/03. I found out on 6/9/03 that my exH had been having an affair with another woman at least since last December or November and even intoduced her to my exFIL back in December when I was gone for a trip with my daughter. My daughter also tells me that my exH, the girlfriend and herself had dinner on several occasionswhen I was working. I am divorced from this man now but I am in so much pain and I don't understand this. I should not care, right? I feel so betrayed and hurt. Why do I feel this way?

Hi Ruby1.

I feel so sorry for you. Of course you feel abandoned and hurt. It's only natural considering your situation. I would find it rather odd if you didn't care at all.

You've come to the right place - good for you that you found this site!
I'm fairly new here too but I suggest you read as much as you feel applies to you here at MB - and some of that which don't in the first place. This site is such a cool place filled with information and a bunch of wise and caring people.

Learn everything you can and post here when ever you want - you are not alone!

Danish
How long will it take for this wound to heal? I never thought I would be in so much pain. The other woman keeps denying the affair but my ex is staying at her house. She is someone I know very well and I have confronted her with this affair as well.