It has been a while since my last post. To give an update, my H had an affair about a year and a half ago and OW had a child in Jan of this year. We have been married almost two years. H and I have been fighting about OC b/c he will not go for legal visitation. He just keeps going to her house to see oc. He even went today on my birthday!! H claims affair is over but ow keeps on calling. he pays cs and just will not go the legal way. ow lives with her parents and her parents do not know he is married. he is liveing two lives and i do not think i can deal with it much longer. how do you know when to quit. We have tried mc and it has not helped bc H will not be honest with everyone. H parents only car about the oc and i have not seen them in about a year. I am so angry and frustrated. i do not know how to deal with the pain and anger. will leaving help?

sorry I think i posted this in the wrong spot. My mind is not where it should be.

If you have no children then you might want to go different directions. It just seems the way to go. You can't live with a man that has a seperate lfe from the women he married.