I just found out my husband has been cheating on me through our entire marriage(5 1/2 years). I knew that he had cheated before, but I really thought he was done. I found out that he brought a call girl into my bed in our home 2 weeks ago. That night I had spent the night at my moms house with our two children, because he told me he was going to the movies with his father. I am totally destroyed. He confessed he has been with hookers, going to strip clubs and getting lap dances, calling 900 numbers and party lines, looking at porno on the internet, and watching porno movies. I feel like I have been living with a stranger. He always has been meanto me but, I never dreamed this was going on. I am so disgusted. I caneven sleep in our bed. I cannot beleive he would do this to me. I don't know what to do. He dosen't want me to leave. He says he loves me (yeah right). And I really don't want to hurt our children. He says he knows he has a problem and is going to get help. I don't beleive him. I don't beleive anything tjat comes out of his mouth. I am extremely depressed. Has anybody else been through this same thing?

SadEyes,
I read your post and my heart goes out to you. You might not want to hear anything from me though.
You see, I was the WS in my M. I felt my W was controlling me by saying "You can't go to strip clubs, or do this or that." So I went to clubs, chatted on the Internet and eventually had an A with a coworker. The A lasted 3-4 months (5 years ago). We are now separated for the last 2 months.
I haven't chatted in 5+ years, stopped the porno movies/mags for the last 1+month, no porno Internet for the last 2 weeks. (That is difficult because until recently my job responsibilities included reporting workers who were going to porn and other non-job-related websites.) Thank God, I never went with hookers, but my A slimy nonetheless. Now I am trying to save my marriage.

Your H has a Sexual Addiction and as such needs professional help. There is only so much you can do. For myself, my W thinks I am a sex addict and my therapist is borderline with it. No matter the label, your H's behavior shows he is out of control.
I hope my thoughts are of some help. Use the resources at this site (forums, Q&A, etc.).

God Bless and Good Luck
TTSMM

Sadeyes
I am sending you the biggest hug and patting of the back {{{{{{{{SAD}}}}}}}} because I honestly all I feeel I can offer you right now in this time for you is a love and faith in christ which I know we share. I am here, I read your threads and I have a huge shoulder, I have no advice I have no solutions, I only have myself and my prayers and thoughts coming your way.
"Lord, wrpa your arms around this woman and give her a comfort no man on earth can give. Show her that thru the strong faith she has in you that in the end of this journey she is traveling all can be done thru you."amen

Thank you both. I have had nobody to talk to about this. I don't want to humilite my husband by telling anyone. But I really don't think he is going to get help. He thimks it going to be like all the other times and I will just stay and try to work throgh it. But, I can't do that again I cannot go throgh this even one more time. Knowing that someone was in our bed makes me sick. I don't know what to do. He says there is really nothing he can do to get help because we don't have the money for a therapist. I told him if he had the money for hookers he has the money for a therapist. He expects me to be sympathic to him and I just can't do that anymore. I have always been there for him through all the affairs. But, knowing he has contunially put my childrens an my life in danger makes me so angry. Knowing he was sleeping with hookers while I was pregnant and then coming home to sleep with me. I just don't understand that. For the five years we have been married he has also been phisically abusive to me and VERY verabbly abusive. He hasn't hit me for about 7 months. But, he also blames that on me. I do love him and I don't want to take his children away. But how can I go on like this. I pray to god for his advise. He hasn't answered yet but I know he will when it is the right time. Does anyone know where I can get help for my husband?

Married - 5 1/2 years
Me - 25
H - 28
2 children
Boy - -4 years
Girl - 6 months

your pastor, does your church or a nearby one have associate pastors???ours does and ther eare so many areas each is called to work in and you would be surprised....he does need help...plus a pastor costs you nothing but the truth and the willingness to confess,repent and move forward...i strongly urge you to check out your local churches...If you will post your email and your area Id even start looking some up for you. I know you are in pain and I comend you n even being able to think of his as you are hurtting like you are.

Sorry for back to back posting but I am going to talk to a woman I know who had a similiar problem as yours ans see what steps they followed...

Thank you so much. We go to church at Calvary Chapel in Costa Mesa, California. He has tried going there before but they didin't seem too helpful. But, I don't know if he was honest with me. Thank you.

Ok if you dont mind to ask one of our assciate pastors if he can recommend some one ...We had a mission trip there not to long ago...He has to be willing to be open and honest, be willing to put it all out there, confessing is the first step, total brutal honesty as painful as it is is a step in the right direction..Going alone an together is a step you two need to think about. He needs to get help for not only you but himself, the path he is on is one that will only end in destruction...Is your email addie anywhere on this site???I got some verses I culd send you.
I dont post mine because ow is a stalker...lol