I talked to in laws last night and let them know what had been going on. They were supportive and hugged me and said they were sorry. I got an e-mail from H this morning. MIL called him and wanted him to meet with her and FIL to talk. He wanted to know EXACTLY what I had told them and if I had said anything to anyone else. Looks like he is trying to cover all bases of his lies. H told me that 'if I didn't think there was a chance for us before, there sure as H**l wasn't one now'. He also said that he would be bring the 'papers' by next week. Is there anything else I can do?? He sounds like he hates me. <p>[This message has been edited by studentwife (edited December 18, 1999).]

Am on my way out the door, but do want to let you know that I will be praying for you and your husband.

Well I haven't given up yet. I love his comment about you telling his parents. What did he think you would sit by and do nothing. They are so stupid. My mil say they are thinking with the wrong head she is more blunt then that but you get the idea. They are sick and in the middle of an powerful addiction.<P>They make absolutely no sense whatever. My h still want to come to the doc's appt. Tuesday, and the letter he wrote she addressed the envelope. If I had realized that it wasn't his handwriting I would have sent it back unopened. <P>All the books say these affairs can last up to two years. Now the question is do we want to hold on that long. I don't know how long I can put up with this nonsense. I do know that I am not standing still while I wait and make up my mind. Even if he does file for divorce. You need to check your state as to what happens if you don't sign the papers. And unless you really want this I wouldn't. Nor would I let him threaten you. Get a lawyer before you if take those papers. We will get through this.<BR>Prayers and hugs.<P>------------------<BR>di<P>

SW, <P> I am so sorry to hear of this, you are in my prayers and thoughts. AS SDS said you must really decide what YOU want and go for that. Make an appointment with a lawyer and discuss the entire situation with him. You will get the proper legal advice you need(laws differ so much from one area to another) and now where you stand from a legal point of view.<BR> I wish I could offer some better and more solid advice but I can't.<BR> I will be praying for you. <P>------------------<BR>Love and Prayers<BR>Nicole<P><BR>

studentwife,<P>I saw your reply to SDS(di)...<BR>I offer to you too... a "search" for a list of lawyers... (see again di's post... and e-mail me ( imherczeg@yahoo.com ) your state and county)<P>I can get to it late tonight though... a very busy day with the kids today... <P>My prayers to you... <P>Jim<BR>---------------------------------<BR>Where two or more are gathered...

Oh, Studentwife, I'm sorry.<P>But it's still not over 'til it's over!!<P>He's embarrassed about his family. And the coward doesn't want to face them. Of course he's gonna be upset.<P>My h went through the same thing. But my MIL fixed it so he didn't KNOW I had talked with them and told them anything, so I lucked out a little.<P>But he still asked me not to call her anymore because it made him uncomfortable. I said ok, but MIL told him to take a pill!! I was her daughter too!<P>Just keep being strong. You'll get through this somehow. I promise.<P>{{{{{{{{{{{{{StudentWife}}}}}}}}}}}<P>Lori

Thanks for you prayers and good wishes. I plan to take the papers to a lawyer once I have them and see what my options are. OW just left her H and let him file for divorce, so both her and my H are being cowards and hiding from reality. I'm sure H is even more angry now that he knows just how much I told his parents. Face the music. Pray that he 'forgets' the papers!!