Curious....... My husband and I have been separated for five months now (not because of an affair) I was just wondering if an affair is more likely to happen during a separation?

Thanks

Why are you separating?

The reason we are separated is because of my husbands refusal to quit smoking marijuana. He smoked when I met him and a year later we turned our lives over to the lord. He quit for a couple of years and for some reason went back to it.

FYI.....

The OW I had the affair with in McAllen, Texas was seperated with her second husband. She moved out in November and within 3 weeks, had started an affair with me. I am not very proud of it!!
She remained seperated from her husband during the affair and then started another affair with another married man.

So, in short, her being seperated was justification for the many sexual affairs that she had. She was basically given the free pass and her husband didn't care less.

That is my H. for ya! Thinking about the OW!
My husband took a job out of state and I was to follow later, much later! He had an affair!
We never disccused divorcing because it was never an issue. I couldn't move with my H. for several reason's. One of them being my son's up and coming major surgery!
I am not sure how stable your marriage is! But you might have given him the green light to have an affair! Tell him to get counseling no matter what!
Since you two have found the lord, why not have him go through counseling with your pastor/minister? Go to your church class if they offer them or find a church that does!
After kicking him out, there is going to be a lot of issues at hand so I would recommend getting MC too!
Affairs come up to sneaky and not expecting! They come on with full force and it is a mind blowing devestation! Watch him like a hawk!
Ali

That's a hard one. On the pro side, we were separated for 9 mos. Without that, I don't think we'd still be married. It was very helpful for a variety of reasons.

On the con side, I found out years later that when I moved out for 2 weeks, my H brought OW (my best friend at the time) into our home and my bed. It's been the hardest part of his A to deal with. I was gone 2 weeks and he moved out for the rest of the time.

If I had known this, I would have NEVER left my house and made it easy for them to be together. I thought they were telling the truth, but they were both liars at the time.

My priest said if we separated to do it for 9-12 mos or the changes wouldn't 'stick.'